Top 7 Wedding Tasks for Moms

Modern ways your mom and mother-in-law can contribute to the wedding plans (without crossing any boundaries).

It’s Mom to the rescue with today’s wedding plans! She and Dad might not be paying for the entire wedding, so today’s mother of the bride or groom is finding new ways to get involved and save you money, time, and sanity.

Here’s what the savvy MOB and MOG are taking on:

1. Working Their Networks. Mom is really well-connected! Through her friend circles, work community, volunteering cliques, and social networking friends, she may know someone (who works in a floral shop, bakery, photography studio, or jewelry store) who loves her enough to grant her a "friends and family wedding discount" for you. Or perhaps she has in-the-know contacts who can point you to the best pros in town.

2. Providing Guest List Support. Moms protect you from guest list faux pas, such as inviting Mr. and Mrs. Jones when they actually got divorced three years ago or spelling your cousin's children's names incorrectly on the invitation. Enlist her help rounding up current addresses and the names of your relatives' plus ones.

3. Offering Her Tastes. Today’s mom is often invited to attend the VIP foodie-fest that helps you select your menu options, including your cake. It's a sweet way to make her feel involved!

4. Helping With the Bridal Shower. Some still feel that moms shouldn't be the main host (according to traditional etiquette), but they’re now joining in with the bridesmaids and maid of honor to help put together an amazing shower for you. They can contribute funds or come up with fun details to rescue your cash-strapped and time-crunched bridesmaids, who are all too happy to get her assistance (provided she’s a team-player and not a steamroller mom who doesn’t let them get a word in!).

5. Styling Themselves. Moms are fashion-forward and style-savvy, so they’re consulting with stylists and choosing amazing gowns and dresses. The days of "wear beige" are over – unless it’s a really incredible designer beige dress! – and brides are making it a Girls’ Day Out to help mom pick her wedding day outfit.

6. Planning Their Own Parties. It might be the rehearsal dinner or the morning-after breakfast where they use all of their own great ideas, themes, menu plans, décor dazzle, and more. A new trend now is for the moms to plan their own after-parties for their friends and close relatives: You go off to party with your crowd, and Mom can party with hers.

7. De-Stressing the Bride. It used to be that moms caused a lot of wedding stress, but their role has become a lot more fun and relaxed than it used to be. They’re taking the tense bride out for mani/pedis, planning movie nights, working out with the bride, and listening to her vent without being judgmental. Moms are there for the bride like never before.

What to Know About Planning a Second Wedding

 

Remarrying? Worried about doing it "right"? Here's everything you need to know.

Planning your second wedding should be a source of joy, not stress, so don’t get caught up in what you think you should do differently. This etiquette guide will help you plan your dream celebration with confidence and ease.

Getting Dressed
Is it okay to wear white? Yes! When it comes to attire, you call the shots. If you want to wear a traditional white wedding gown with all the fabulous tulle and satin trimmings, go for it. The only question that may give pause is whether to wear a veil, or a gown that has a train. Although the majority of second-timers choose not to, we don’t see why you shouldn’t. Other headpiece options include flowers, a tiara or a pretty, wide-brimmed hat.

Setting the Tone
You might think that a second wedding necessitates modest, low-key revelry, especially if your first wedding was elaborate. Second weddings do tend to be more intimate, with smaller guest lists, but there’s no reason not to throw a big shebang. It’s your choice: The point is to bask in the glory of your union — don’t hold back.

Registering for Gifts
Is this appropriate? By all means. You might already have the fine china, silver and crystal categories covered, so consider registering for “fun” gifts — camping equipment, electronics, sushi sets and so on. Or you might want guests to make an optional donation to a charity in lieu of a gift.

Your Marriage License
In general, the same application process you followed for your first marriage applies to your second, with one exception: You’ll need the divorce decree from your previous marriage or, if one of you has been widowed, a copy of the deceased spouse’s death certificate. Call your local county clerk’s office to find out the specifics.

Prenuptial Agreements
Talk this one over with your lawyer — a prenup might be a good idea if you have considerable wealth, own property that you want to keep in the family or are worried about the financial future of your children. Sure, it’s a sticky subject, but someday you might be glad for the extra protection.

Premarital Counseling
It may be helpful for easing any fears you have about repeating past mistakes and for helping you gain a better understanding of each other’s expectations. Find a specialist in couples’ therapy (try the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy) or seek help through your house of worship, which may provide this service.

The Honeymoon
Don’t even think about skipping it! But should you bring your kids? You’re not obligated to do so. If you prefer, plan to take them on a separate get-away to a kid-friendly destination later on. This will be a great way for family members to start to connect.

Married…with Children

It’s important to involve your kids from your previous marriage(s) in your wedding. After all, they’ll be part of your new union. Here’s how:

• Most children will jump at the chance to be a flower girl, ring bearer or junior bridesmaid or groomsman. Giving them these roles will make them an integral part of the event.

• Trust your children with important responsibilities like greeting guests upon arrival or handing out wedding programs or favors.

• Have your children join you at the altar, and exchange personally written vows that emphasize “new family” themes.

Hot Winter Wedding Color Combos – White, Silver + Ice Blue

There is a reason why some colors are popular and never fade away in weddings and that’s mainly due to the fact that they simply work well together, while other color combinations find it hard to compete. It just so happens that ice blue, snow white and shimmering silver work ever so well together and especially during the winter months. There are jewel pinks and other blue hues that work well with these colors, but today we want to focus on these hot shades that make 2014 winter weddings look ever so dreamy.

The invitations

When it comes to winter wedding invitations we think formal is the only way forward, Christmas and winter is always the time for a wee bit of sparkle and shine. We also love the idea of damask invitations glitzing up the envelopes too with some shimmery liners or rich contrast colors. As well as color consider texture and motifs to get the perfect look for your wedding.

The bouquet

White hydrangeas, soft ranunculus and other fuller plump flowers are popular for any winter wedding bouquets. If you want a more modern and contemporary twist then add some sparkle into your bouquet to keep things looking fresh and glam.

The table decorations

To make your wedding reception feel warm and inviting why not add more light through the added aid of some stylish candles, however just ensure that they are placed in a safe space and out of children’s reach. We also love the idea of plush full floral bouquets with snow-white flowers and silver/blue ribbons and confetti.

The Cakes

Vintage-style ice blue and white wedding cakes with silver powder will look divine. Make them look formal with added shimmery powder and iced piping or even cute dainty little roses or snowflakes.

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Buy, Don't Rent

"When I got a quote for more than $500 to rent linens, I went on Ebay and purchased what I needed for less than $250. And we're going to resell them after the honeymoon!" —Brittani P., Jacksonville, Fla.

Get Intimate

"For the rehearsal dinner, we threw a casual outdoor barbecue for just our families, the officiant, and the bridal party. Keeping it low-key and super-small meant we had more to spend on the wedding itself." —Shannon M., New York City

Shop at Home

"We're having a nautical wedding, so we're using a bunch of dé cor that we already own, like lanterns, seashells, driftwood, and model ships." —Mandy C., West Palm Beach, Fla.

Choose an Off-Day

"Having your wedding on a Friday night is so much cheaper than doing it on a Saturday." —Rachel P., New York City

Hire a Wedding Planner

"Yes, we paid extra at the outset, but our planner more than made up for it by helping us negotiate better deals. Plus, nothing curbs the urge to spend like running all your purchases by a professional." —Morgan M., Richmond, Va.

Wedding-Worthy One-Tier Cakes

A wedding cake doesn't have to be sky-high! A single-tier confection is ideal for couples having a small celebration or those who want a designer cake for a fraction of the cost. Which is a wonderful alternative if you are planning a dessert bar!

A Pink Flower-Adorned Wedding Cake with Wooden Figurines

The gorgeous pink rose on this sweet one-tier cake is festive, but it's the adorable wooden figurines on top that really make this a cake worth saying "I do" to.

A One-Tier Wedding Cake with A Tall Flower Topper

The tall flower topper on this Maggie Austin Cake cake adds height and drama to the one-tier design. It's ideal for a small-scale, yet formal wedding.

A Square Wedding Cake With Sugar Pearls

The white sugar pearls on this Maggie Austin Cake creation add a certain ladylike glamour to its unique square shape. A delicate flower topper makes it a true confectionery standout worthy of a formal wedding.

A Ruffled Wedding Cake with Flowers

Structured white ruffles take a simple one-tier design and elevate it to something befitting a luxurious event. This Maggie Austin Cake concoction is delightfully ethereal and ready to display at a glamorous wedding.

 A Quilted White Wedding Cake with Flowers

A petite wedding cake decorated with ivory ribbon and tiny pearls and topped by delicate sugar flowers is a gorgeous, fool-proof option for any size wedding.

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5 Ways to Personalize Your Wedding Day

Want your I do's to be totally you? From prewedding cocktails to Mad Lib vows, here are 5 ways to make your ceremony as unforgettable as your reception.

Have a Drink

Start the celebration as soon as guests arrive by throwing a short (no more than an hour) preceremony cocktail party. It will give everyone a chance to mingle and ensure that even your chronically late college roommate will get there in time for the main event. Keep it simple by serving a festive cocktail or two and a small treat like artisanal popcorn in paper cones. As for whether you choose to make a special guest appearance yourself—possibly in another cute white outfit—that's up to you.

Plan a Group Activity

If you're marrying at a location like a museum, zoo, or aquarium, give your guests the option of taking a fun behind-the-scenes tour before your I do's.

Pick an Alternative Bridesmaid Bouquet

Skip the bouquets and have your besties carry a chic clutch instead. (It doubles as a bridesmaids' gift!) Other creative options: silk fans, parasols in your colors, or candlelit lanterns (great for an evening ceremony).

Get Creative With the Ring Bearer

Have your ring bearer carry your bands on something unique: a felt flower, a mini fishing rod, or a slice of wood that says "Here Comes the Bride."

Make a Time Capsule

Before the wedding, write a letter to your groom. (He should do the same for you.) During the ceremony, put the notes and a bottle of wine in a box and take turns hammering it shut. Open it on your 10th anniversary!

6 Items to Save Your Wedding Day Emergency

It's unfortunate, but true: Accidents are bound to happen even on your wedding day — especially when it comes to your pristine, gorgeous white dress. Luckily, most brides say that the little mishaps didn't even make a dent on their big day, but it's always better to be prepared. So, if a tiny drop of red wine somehow lands right onto the front of your dress before you take pictures or if you suffer a wardrobe malfunction, you'll be able to take care of the situation ASAP!

1. Emergency sewing kit with needle, thread, and scissors: "In case you have any tears or rips in your dress — let's say the hem got caught in your heel or your bustle breaks — having thread and a needle can quickly fix the problem. Also make sure to keep a miniature pair of scissors in your kit, which will make any sewing jobs that much easier.

2. Safety Pins: Safety pins are essential in case a detail on a dress falls off and it needs to be secured back on or you have a sudden zipper malfunction.

3. Double-Sided Tape: I've seen one too many brides and bridesmaids who were having too much fun (as they should have been!), and the potential for a 'slip' was very high. Double-sided tape keeps your dresses in intact in places that should never be exposed and gives you confidence to bust out your boldest dance moves.

4. Make Up For Ever Micro Finish Powder: This is one of my favorite products out on the beauty market. Naturally you would use it to blot lightly on your face to combat shine and mattify skin. What a lot of people don't know, however, is that this particular powder also removes oil or grease stains on fabric. It works like magic. Just dust it onto the stain and then blot it out with a tissue or cloth.

5. Tide-to-Go Instant Stain Remover: This is one of the best inventions ever and I always have it on hand. Simply swipe the marker on the stain and it disappears almost instantly.

6. Band-Aid: Last, but not least, don't forget to throw a few Band-Aids into your kit, especially if you're still breaking in new shoes. Stick one on as soon as you feel a pinch to prevent blisters from forming later in the night.

3 Ceremony Timing Essentials

While everyone loves to get the party started, the ceremony is the bread and butter of a wedding. After all, you need a ceremony to actually get married! Once you've figured out where and how you'd like the tie the knot, you'll have to figure out when. From timing your "I dos" with the sunset, to preventing your perpetually late friends and family and even dealing with family members who want to skip the ceremony, our etiquette experts answer all of your ceremony scheduling woes.

Some of my relatives say they are not coming to my 3:30 pm wedding ceremony because they have weekly errands to run. They are planning only to attend the wedding reception, which is at 5 pm. I'm offended! Should I tell them?
We don't blame you for being upset that they would rather hit the dry cleaner than watch you recite your vows, but think carefully before confronting them. Even if you were able to guilt them into attending, would you really feel better knowing they had come only because you forced the issue? Take the high road, and do not mention their absence when you greet them at the reception.

I'm worried about guests arriving late to the ceremony and distracting the others. What can I do to prevent this?
Latecomers to a wedding ceremony are inevitable but there are a few things you can do to minimize the distraction — things that don't involve lying to guests on your invite. Don't be too rigid about beginning the ceremony at the exact minute listed on the invitation; if guests are still trickling in at that moment, give them a few extra minutes to get settled and take their seats. But if it's getting really late, don't feel trapped waiting for people who may never show. (Very late guests may give up trying to get to the ceremony and catch up with you at the reception.) After the ceremony begins, station an usher just outside the ceremony entrance to direct guests in at an appropriate moment. But in the end, don't be too concerned with latecomers. Once the ceremony begins, everyone will be so enthralled with the ceremony that they won't notice any latecomers, especially ones that quietly slink into a seat in the back.

We're having an outdoor wedding and want to get married at sunset. What time should we start the ceremony?
Timing your outdoor ceremony to coincide with the sunset is a wonderful idea -- you and your groom will remember the moment forever and your wedding guests can experience the magic as the light wanes and the candles at the reception begin to glow. But timing the ceremony start time perfectly can be a bit tricky. If you wait until the sun has begun to set to start your walk down the aisle, then the light will be gone by the time you say your vows and you may be left exchanging rings in the dark. Instead, if you're having a 15- to 20-minute ceremony, begin the ceremony one- to one-and-a-half hours before the actual sunset time. (The Weather Channel has a handy wedding-sunset calculator.) Then, the setting sun will cast a soft glow during your vow exchange but it will still be well-lit enough so your photographer can get all the important shots. And as the sun sets and turns to dusk, you'll still have enough light for fabulous post-ceremony group photos, newlywed portraits, and cocktail-hour candids.

The 10 Biggest Wedding Etiquette Don'ts

We're counting down the all-too-common mistakes brides-to-be make, so you can avoid as many of them as possible!

1. Don't announce your engagement on Facebook before calling Grandma.

Remember to share the big news with your inner circle before updating your status on social media. Tell your family and closest friends first, preferably in person, or if they're long-distance, by phone or Skype (so they see the ring!). Only then is it appropriate to change your Facebook status. And after the outpouring of congrats, be sure to post a quick thank-you to the well-wishers.

2. Don't include registry information on your invites.
Your wedding invitation lets guests know how much you love them and want them to be by your side on your wedding day. There should not be any mention of an expectation for a gift, even though, yes, that would be the easiest and most obvious place. It may sound old fashioned, but word of mouth is still the best way to loop everyone in on your registry. Make sure that those closest to you (your parents, his parents, bridesmaids, groomsmen) have your registry details handy because they will likely receive phone calls and emails from guests with questions about what to get you. Another way to easily share registry details to your guest list is via a wedding website — which is totally okay to include on your invites. Be sure to list the URL so guests can head there to get all sorts of additional wedding info — location details, directions, attire suggestions, and, of course, your registry.

3. Don't make guests wait too long between the ceremony and reception.

If your ceremony and reception are at different venues, do your best to minimize the in-between time. When guests have too much free time on their hands between the ceremony and reception, they'll either starve (and get cranky) or find a nearby cafe and stuff themselves. Ideally you want your guests to eat and drink and be merry at your reception, not at a bar they found along the way. If a large time gap is inevitable, make sure your guests are entertained or have the option of being entertained. You may want to plan an outing — a sightseeing bus tour, maybe? — or set up a hospitality lounge, with drinks and snacks, at the hotel where your guests will be staying (you can include information and directions in the ceremony program). Your main goal is to make sure nobody's left in the lurch with nowhere to go and nothing to do.

4. Don't invite someone to the bridal shower if they aren't invited to the wedding.

You can't invite someone to your shower and expect them to give you a gift if you are not planning to invite them to the wedding. It would seem like they were good enough to give you a shower gift, but not good enough to celebrate with you on your big day. The bridal shower is intended to be a celebration with the bride's nearest and dearest, so every shower guest must already be on the wedding guest list. The only exception is a workplace bridal shower, in which a large number of coworkers pitch in and contribute to an office celebration. (If an office shower involves only a few coworkers, thoughtful couples will probably include these colleagues in the wedding guest list.)

5. Don't skimp on wedding-party gifts.

Truthfully, the best gift you can give your wedding party is a pleasant, drama-free experience as they help you prep for the big day. However, it's also important to thank your attendants with a tangible gift to show your appreciation. While every couple's situation (i.e., wedding budget, number of bridesmaids and groomsmen) is different, you'll want to sit down with your fiancé and have a discussion about thank-you presents. One idea is to jointly decide on an appropriate price range per gift, then choose presents accordingly. But if, for example, you decide to give your attendants $80 necklaces while your fiancé gifts his groomsmen with $150 custom Nike sneakers, that's totally fine, as long as you've communicated about this. Whatever you decide to buy, consider what you've been asking financially of your bridesmaids and groomsmen. If they're dropping a ton of cash on wedding-related things like an airplane ticket, hotel room, and $500 bridesmaid dress (not to mention the bridal shower, bridal-shower gift, and wedding present), then a $20 necklace from Etsy might seem a little ungracious. You're certainly not required to buy something that equals how much they've spent, but the amount should convey a sincere gratitude for how much time, effort, and money they have put into your wedding. As a rule of thumb, something between $75 and $150 should suffice.

6. Don't clump all your single friends together at one table.

Sure, weddings are a great place to meet people, but don't throw all your single friends haphazardly at one table. Instead, seat people based on their shared interests, not marital status. Go through your guest list and draw parallels — join up guests with similar hobbies, jobs, or interests. And try to make everyone feel comfortable by offering a mix of familiar and new faces at each table. If your single cousin Kristen just got back from a trip to Copenhagen and your married friends Matt and Valerie are headed there next month, seat them at the same table.

7. Don't make guests pay for their own drinks.

The bar bill amounts to one of the reception's biggest expenses, so it's understandable that not every couple can afford hours and hours of open-bar boozing. But there are many ways to save big without having to resort to a cash bar, which is never a good idea! We repeat, a cash bar is never a good idea! Instead, try one of these ideas:

1. Serve two creative signature cocktails. Give your guests a taste of your personality as a couple by serving a signature drink or two. You'll limit the amount of alcohol imbibed since you can incorporate inexpensive mixers, and you can choose a less expensive brand of alcohol. Not only will this selection help you stick to your budget, but also, your guests will enjoy learning more about you through your drink choices.
2. Stick to wine and beer. Mixed drinks with expensive liquor can quickly add up, so give your guests a choice of wine or beer to sip throughout the night.
3. BYOB. Ask if your site allows you to bring in your own liquor. Buy it by the case to save 10 to 15 percent off the cost of single bottles. Return unopened bottles, if that's allowed in your state.
4. Have a limited open bar. You can opt for an open bar just during cocktail hour, then switch to beer and wine during dinner and the rest of the reception.
5. Go ethnic. Plan a themed reception, then limit beverages to a few appropriate options: red wine with an Italian celebration, or Coronas and margaritas for a Mexican fiesta, for example.

8. Don't forget to feed your wedding vendors.
The last thing you want on your wedding day is a low-energy DJ or an exhausted photographer. Your vendors are putting on your affair so that you don't have to, so plan on feeding any wedding professionals who will be there with you at the reception. This includes your wedding planner, photographer, videographer, and DJ or band, plus their assistants (but not your florist or the ceremony musicians). Work their meals into your budget and consider it part of their fee. (And actually, for many vendors, it is actually stipulated in the contract that the couple is to provide a meal.) As for pricing, ask your caterer — everyone has different policies. Some won't charge extra while others will charge you around 50 percent of the guest meal cost. Others will have you pay full price. Once that's settled, you are responsible for letting your caterer know how many extra meals they need to prepare for your vendors. Also talk to your caterers and the venue manager to designate a quiet spot for them to eat during a break (though you may want to seat your photographer in the main room so they're near the action, in case they need to jump out of their seat to take a shot). Just remember, your vendors are going to be working five to eight hours (or more!) that day and you don't want their energy to flag just as the party gets going.

9. Don't skip out on greeting each guest personally.

These days, most couples forgo the formal post-ceremony receiving line. Instead, make it a point to circulate among the reception tables after dinner. Work with your wedding planner to schedule the table greetings into the day-of timeline and make an effort to find something sincere and personal to say to each guest. Another idea is to hand-deliver your wedding favors as you make your table rounds — it's the perfect way to catch everyone. Just make sure to keep moving and don't get held up at one table for too long.

10. Don't wait a year to send your thank-you notes.
Let's set the record straight: No, you do not have a year to mail your thank-you cards. We're not sure where this wedding myth originated, but you should send thank-you notes to everyone who has given you a gift at any of the wedding festivities (the engagement party, bridal shower, wedding) in a much more timely fashion. For gifts received during the engagement party and shower, send a thank you within two to three weeks of the festivities; for gifts sent before the wedding date, send a card as soon as possible but definitely before the wedding; for gifts given on the wedding day itself, mail a thank-you note within three months; and for gifts received after your wedding, send one within two to three weeks.

What is your favorite "Don't" that we didn't list?

Ask Anything...Wedding Advice for Real People

I love the look of crystal for a black tie wedding, but it's beyond our budget. Is there a good alternative?

Modern colored stemware! It brightens up a formal, neutral palette in an instant, and it's way less expensive to rent.

I'm obsessed with wedding cakes with edible flowers. Any ideas on where I can get them?

What's sweeter than blossoms good enough to eat? You can get them from Edible Flowers or Terrain.

I want to incorporate fabric from my mother's dress in to my own, but her's is lace and mine is silk. Is it doable?

Antique lace can look beautiful layered onto a silk bodice or as an accent around your neckline or waist. For a fee, most salons or designers should be able to make the alteration for you. You could also look at using it on your bouquet, your headpiece, or design a clutch to carry.

Do we have to invite our out-of-town guests to the rehearsal dinner?

A big rehearsal dinner is a nice way to thank people for making the trip, but it is by no means expected. It's totally cool to limit your dinner to the wedding party, and close family. If you'd like, you can treat your other guests to drinks and snacks back at the hotel.

How To Make Wedding Traditions New

Weddings are chalk full of traditions. Really, a wedding ceremony itself — with the symbolic wedding rings, vows, aisles, white wedding gowns, and a following wedding reception — is all tradition. So, when bride’s start to question if they want to have a “traditional” wedding, by having a wedding it is traditional. But, the little traditional details can of course be picked over to cater to the bride’s beliefs and wants, and each of these traditions can be modified and otherwise modernized. One of the more fun and widely known traditions comes from the Victorian rhyme “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpence in your shoe,”  listing the popular traditions and superstitions of the time. These traditions pulled together as one is a popular tradition today that is easily tweaked and made unique for the bride-to-be.

What do they mean? The something old in this tradition is meant symbolically link the bride to her heritage and past, a past that then looks forward. The something new is this looking forward: It is a symbol of looking to the future with optimism. Then something borrowed is meant to represent borrowing happiness. The intention is that the bride would borrow something from a woman in a happy marriage and borrowing something from her would then bring happiness and longevity to the marriage of the new bride. Next, something blue is a symbol of good fortune and fidelity. And finally, the sixpence in your shoe is supposed to bring prosperity to the marriage.

Ideas on How to Make this Tradition Unique to You

“Something Old”

Typically, the something old will be an heirloom that has been passed down in your family and this is the easiest to make individualized to you. If you have a grandmother that you were close to or there is an heirloom that means a lot to you, then this is where you would want to incorporate it in your wedding. If you don’t have an heirloom in mind, then try using something old that is representative of you as a person or something special about your family or childhood. The way to make this old tradition new is to make sure you make it about you.

•     Use a broach or pendant as part of your wedding bouquet wrap
•     For your engagement photos have a photo shoot with a restored car or at an old or historic building (maybe even at the place where your parents or grandparents met or went on their first date)
•     Display old family photos at the reception (old wedding photos or couple photos)
•     Have the wedding at an old church (perhaps even the church your parents were married in)
•     Use the bride’s parents cake topper as your wedding cake topper
•     Wear a mother’s or grandmother’s wedding dress or use the material from their wedding dress to make yours

“Something New”

For your something new…buy something new. A lot of the accessories and necessities will be new for your wedding, but it is important to designate something you want to buy as your something new.

•     Your wedding dress
•     New wedding jewelry (A locket with an old photograph would be a cute way to combine old and new together!)
•     Treat the bride to new and expensive make up to wear on the wedding day
•     Buy a new perfume or have a perfume designed for the bride

Or instead of buying something new, think trying something new.

•     Have a daring food choose as part of your menu item (never had escargot? Try it!)
•     Never been in a helicopter? Instead of driving off in a car, leave in and for a helicopter ride around the city to check out the lights and be close to the stars. Then have a friend leave you a car where the helicopter lands.
•     Go skydiving on your honeymoon.
•     Find a world record that you can complete at your wedding reception (I believe there is a record for the longest held kiss…)
•     Learn a new dance to perform at your reception.

“Something Borrowed”
When thinking of the something to borrow don’t restrict yourself to things the bride can have on her during the wedding ceremony. What can help you make new this tradition is implementing it throughout the wedding day and not restricting it to what the bride wears.

Things to borrow and then return with a thank you note:

•     A sister’s veil or petticoat for under your wedding dress.
•     Borrow a book with a poem or sweet sentiment that can be used in the ceramony
•     If you are having a beach wedding borrow a stone or sea shell from the ocean (no thank you note needed here…that would be littering)
•     Borrow the wedding jewelry from a friend or sister
•     Borrow the honeymoon location by staying at a friend vacation home

“Something Blue”

Something blue is by far the easiest aspects of this tradition to adhere to, but that just means you are open to a whole wide world of creativity in your implementation of it.

•     Have blue as one of your wedding colors
•     Wear blue wedding shoes
•     Have a blue sapphire or jewel in one of your wedding accessories
•     Have a light blue aisle or a blue glass paved aisle way
•     Put a blue flower in the flower girl’s hair
•     Use blue colored lights at the reception for your lighting
•     Use a blue garter or have a garter with blue on it
•     Have your wedding date and names embroidered to the inside of your wedding dress in blue thread
•     Have your guest’s sign in with a blue ink pen
•     Play music that features the word blue or is blues music at the wedding reception (you can have an MC announce it if you like)

“Sixpence in Your Shoe”

This is one tradition that is often left out of the old-new-borrowed-blue wedding tradition, but if you want to capture everything in this tradition or adhere to the superstition that it will bring your marriage good luck and prosperity, then you don’t want to forget that sixpence!

•     You can of course order a sixpence and use it traditionally by placing it in the bride’s shoe
•     You can have it sewn into the hem of the wedding dress
•     Attach it to the wedding bouquet
•     Use a lucky penny instead of a sixpence
•     Use a coin in the currency of the country you will be honeymooning in
•     Use a coin in the currency of the country your ancestors were from
•     Have a coin minted for the bride

How To Hire a Wedding DJ That Is Right For You

Out of all the wedding vendors couples book, the most challenging and arguably most important one is the DJ. You can judge a venue by its visual aesthetics or a photographer by their images, but what criteria can you use to find the best DJ for you? Here’s how to qualify a DJ, who fits both your needs and has the ability to execute your vision:

1. Mixing – Blending songs consistently and tastefully together while transitioning between different eras and genres of music. It requires technical skill, deep-music knowledge, and the intangible ability to read a crowd.

    Why – This is the most important factor for keeping your family and friends on the dance floor all night long. It will be the difference between guests forgetting your wedding or having lifelong memories they’ll talk about forever.
    How – Does the DJ have a mix that you can listen to? Can you see them perform live at an event? If yes, your ear will be able to distinguish their skill level and tell you if they’re the right fit. If the answer is no, take them off of the list.

2. Service/Organization – Ensuring that every need of a couple is met in a timely fashion and accounting for every detail ahead of time.

    Why – The level of service is a barometer of how invested a DJ is to your event and should make that planning process as easy as possible. Organization ultimately leads to either a botched or well-executed event.
    How – What is your online interaction like? Does the DJ understand your vision and communicate swiftly or is it like pulling teeth? An in-person meeting will give you a a chance to assess this and ask the DJ how they prepare for an event.

3. Hosting/MCing – Guiding an audience through an event with down-to-earth announcements. Creating a natural flow keeps things moving so people are always engaged.

    Why – Family and friends invested their time and money to experience and witness every aspect of your wedding. The last thing you want is some guy blabbing on the mic and annoying everyone.
    How – Again, an in-person meeting immediately reveals their verbal communication and listening skills. Or you can always see them perform live at an event.

4. Equipment – Having professional microphones, sound system, lighting, and gear.

    Why – The most common problem is microphone feedback, which can ruin a ceremony or heartfelt speech. It doesn’t matter how incredible a mix is if it’s distorted or hits a volume ceiling.
    How – Simply ask for a list of equipment then cross reference it online. The cost of the equipment typically correlates with its reliability and performance – the higher the better. If a DJ uses Technics 1200 turntables or Pioneer CDJ 1000s, that’s a sign they are serious about their mixing. If lighting is a priority then find out what options they have available.

5. Experience – The repetition of doing a variety of events.

    Why – A DJ who is well versed in both the pressure of party rocking at a club and the detail required for weddings should be well equipped to make sure you have the time of your life.
    How – Find out their gig history and actually verify its accuracy.

After you have done the research and interviews, take a step back and consider what’s most important to you. Set aside any preconceived ideas about price because investing in the DJ will ensure that all of the hard-earned money you’re spending in other departments doesn’t go to waste. A wedding only happens once and you should hire the right person that can create the unforgettable experience you’ve always dreamed of.

Wedding DIY - Fabulous Flowers with Floral Frogs

Flowers aren't the easiest wedding detail to DIY - they need to be done just before the big day. Unless your a pro creating a complicated centerpiece can also be a nightmare! But there is a trick that makes arranging them a snap.

Often used in ikebana - the Japanese are of flower arranging, floral frogs are slotted structures that sit in the bottom of a vase to hold the flower. Just place one stem in each hole and you will have an airy, well-spaced grouping. Hardy bulb flowers, such as tulips, daffodils and lilies, stand up best. Consider using them and save some money for that fabulous honeymoon!

Spotlight on Wedding Memories

Everybody says it, and it's true. Your wedding goes by so quickly! The best gift you can give yourself (and kids and grandkids) is a book of memories from your amazing celebration. It doesn't have to be a chore or yet another task you have to do in the midst of all the planning. Here are my top tips for making it fun and easy to relive a time you will always want to remember.

Figure Out Your Style.
Are you a scrapbook fan who like saving tactile bits like a swatch of fabric from your gown? Or do you prefer the professional look of a digital photo book? Personally, I did both. A scrapbook to focus on the fun lighter side and a professional book to highlight the elegance of our day. Choose whatever inspires you.

Scrutinize Your Shot List.
Add details that you want to showcase to the must-haves that you give your photographer. Then you'll be able to paste a pic of your bouquet next to a dried petal in your scrapbook or include an image of your hand written vows in a photo book.

Appoint a Souvenir Snatcher.
Ask a pal to grab day-of keepsakes that you will be too busy to snag. And be sure to mail yourself an invitation - you can post these in a scrapbook or take photos for a digital version.

Write It Down.
Along with images, you will want to remember the words that move you. Request that everyone who makes a toast give you their notes if they make any - even if they email them to you later.

What are you planning to include in your memory catcher?

What’s trending this wedding season

This is a busy time of the year for Noteable Expressions as we help our happy couples prepare for their big days. We’re often asked by couples what’s trending for the upcoming season year. Wedding trends are always changing, colors, themes, clothes and accessories and in more recent years technology. Over the years we’ve seen the good, the bad and not so good. We’ve decided help out our couples by coming up with a few predicted trends for 2014-2015.

Wedding Dresses

Layer and textures are popular for 2014 bridal gowns. Floor length dresses with open back and combinations of soft fabrics (lace, chiffon and organza).

Wedding Hair Styles

Loosely-done waves, super chic bobs are popular styles with flowers, hairpins and fascinators are popular accessories.

Wedding Color Trends
The table below illustrates the popular wedding color choices:

Wedding Bouquets

Most bouquets are hand-tied, with the flowers gathered together and wrapped in wide satin ribbon. The style is looser than previous years, with a ‘just picked’ look. Adding beads and brooches, crystals and feathers seem to be a continuing trend from the last year.

The choice of flower will often depend on the season, roses continues to be the most popular bouquet flower, hydrangeas, peonies and orchids are also very popular.
Wedding Reception Decorations

Couples are choosing to decorate their venues with more and more unique items bird cages, crystal trees, vintage furniture and one we really like is photos and portraits used as decorative elements.

Other popular decorating items include Chinese lanterns, tissue pom poms, garlands and over-sized balloons.

A popular decorating trend is the confection bar, which is where a variety of lollies or treats are grouped together on a table, in glass jars of varying size. Silver spoons or scoops in each container allows guests to fill small boxes or bags as take-home wedding favors.

Wedding Cakes

Couples are sticking to the traditional sponge, chocolate, vanilla or fruit cake, choosing cake decorations that fit with the wedding theme.
Wedding Photography

Couples are choosing photo journalistic style (actions shots of the day’s events) wedding photography over the traditional posed portraits. Posed portraits are still requested with a mix of color and black and white photos.

Wedding Themes

The most common wedding themes for the up-coming year are rustic, vintage, and garden all with a mix of glitter, glam and tradition.

How to Plan a Wedding At Work - and Not Lose Your Job

 Use office hours to schedule vender visits, not conduct them.

It's fine to make wedding calls during your downtime, but use them to quickly and discreetly arrange meetings for weeknights and weekends.

Don't spend every lunch hour with your planner.

As you know, relationships are crucial at work, so don't let yours fade by spending every coffee break and lunch hour with your planner or venders.

Avoid obsessing over wedding details with coworkers.

She'd never say it to your face but Hillary in HR really doesn't care if you go with peonies or gardenias. Not even a little bit.

Delegate (but not to your admin).

Ask your fiance, your bridesmaids, your Mom to handle details that are less crucial to you. Give the right task to the right person and then trust them to handle it. Don't micromanage.

Ask a work buddy to keep tabs on you. 

A trusted friend or coworker can tell you when you are pushing the limits. Is your cube empty too often when the boss strolls by? Count on your girl to sound the alarm and then be sure to heed the warning!

Use vacation days strategically. 

Consider clipping that two-week honeymoon and taking one or two days off before your wedding. Then schedule back-to-back vender visits on them.

Ask Us Anything...Wedding Edition

We don't want our white centerpieces to fade into the background. How do we make them pop?

Don't worry -- white blooms can make a huge impact. For peak drama, your florist should give them seven to ten days to fully open. Leave the greenery for contrast, and try sprinkling your table with votives. Candlelight makes snowy tones stand out beautifully.

 

I love my invite! For favors, I'd like to give cookies that borrow from its design. Where can I get them? 

A Dozen Eggs, a bakery in Vermont that ships nation-wide, will custom design treats to match your stationery suite.

I want to wear a mermaid gown, but I'm five foot two and I worry the style will make me look shorter. What can I do?

A mermaid is doable for any height as long as it is cut to fit your body. For maximum elongation, make sure it is fitted through your hips and flares out just above - not below - your knee.

8 Top Winter Wedding Trends for 2014

8 Top Winter Wedding Trends for 2014

Winter color trend: Greens and whites with dusty pastel accents

This winter, it’s all about mixing unexpected seasonal elements with elegant neutral details and a hint of sparkle and sequins. Take a look.

Go back to basics and look to natural wintry greens, whites and ivories for your palette. Pair lush white blooms with leafy green accents, then add dusty accents like blush and sage for a subtle twist on an otherwise neutral palette.

Also big?

Stark contrasts like cherry red and white or black and gold (think dramatic art deco) make a statement, and add serious definition to flowers and décor.

Winter cake trend: All white cakes with metallic accents

A white wedding cake with clean lines, sugar flowers (like over-sized magnolias or a cascade of bright red anemones) and a hint of metallic (like silvery pearl beads or edible shimmery silver sugar) is the go-to look for winter wedding cakes. And colder temperatures mean you can indulge in richer flavors that might seem heavy in the warmer seasons, like caramel spice and even orange chocolate cake.

Also big?

Styled cake stands and gorgeous presentation are musts for any season. In winter, we’re talking a tree ring cake stand trimmed with fresh evergreen or a Lucite platform filled with sparkly silver ornaments or sequins.

Winter reception trends: Velvet and sequins

Winter is the season to use lots of layers. This year, the hottest reception styles involve layering luxe textures like velvet table linens or sequin overlays. If that’s too much for your tables, use texture in smaller doses--think a velvet napkin wrap or embroidered velvet chair back.

Also big?

Woodland motifs like deer, antlers or branches make for an amazing centerpiece, especially when paired with a classic evergreen wreath, or even soft, dusty rose and ivory flower centerpieces.

Winter flower trends: Greenery and non-floral elements

Full white or ivory flowers accented with lots of greens are hot for winter. For a soft look, go for dusty sage green lamb’s ear (they’re actually leaves that feel velvety) or silvery dusty miller. For a more rustic style, ask your florist to use ferns or evergreen.

Also big?

Wintertime calls for lots of light and branches. Some branchy ideas: Curly willow, eucalyptus (it smells great) and even pepper berries are all seasonal and will add serious dimension to even the simplest arrangements.

 Winter food trends: Baked comfort foods

Comfort foods are popular year-round, but something about winter makes them taste even better. For your menu, consider your favorites –- like pot pie, mac and cheese or even biscuits and gravy -- and then work with your caterer to come up with a way to serve them to all your guests. You could even add in a warm cheese course served before dinner or with the cake. (Think baked Brie with dried cranberries paired with a citrus mulled wine.)

Also big?

Hot cocoa bars are popular for a winter wedding. Put a personalized touch on your cocktails with custom calligraphed drink sleeves, and don’t forget the homemade marshmallows. Other seasonal drinks that will warm guests up and get the party started are spiced ale and bourbon-based hot toddies.

Winter invitation trend: Fabric-inspired patterns

Take a hint from ready-to-wear trends with tartan prints and other fun patterns on your invitations. For example, bring in a flannel bellyband or a houndstooth envelope liner to tie all the pieces together from the invitation suite.

Also big?

A wintry nature-inspired motif, like pinecones and wood grain paper, is a classic choice. Combine it with a gold font or a glitter border for a fresh take.

 

Winter Branches in Black White and Grey Wedding Suite

Winter bridesmaid trends: Jewel tones and lace

Lace mixed with a saturated jewel tone, like eggplant or navy, is sophisticated and perfectly complements the season. Look to lines like Noir by Lazaro, Lauren Gabrielson and Jim Hjelm Occasions for some really pretty lace designs.

Also big?

Black bridesmaid dresses will make a sultry statement this season. The best part about this hue: Your bridesmaids really can wear it again.

Winter beauty trends: Volume and berry lips

Hairstyles with volume are hot for winter. Try a chignon with lots of volume or a ton of loose curls and a sparkly headband. Hint: A hairstyle like this pairs well with a slinky, body-hugging gown. In makeup, this season it’s all about a bold berry lip color (like a jewel-tone raspberry) paired with a neutral base.

Also big?

Define your cheekbones (it’s not just for runway models) with bronzer or blush to make your features stand-out amidst all that hair and give you a dewy, just-frolicked-in-the-snow color on your cheeks.

So what is your favorite trend for this winter's bride? Which ones are you planning on incorporating in your special day?

13 Pieces of Actual, No-Bull Wedding Planning Advice

There's a lot of wedding advice floating around the Internet. Problem is, a lot of it is useless fluff dreamed up by a) relatively well-heeled editors contractually obligated to spend their days inventing absurd nonsense to fill pages surrounded by advertisements b) people who've never planned a wedding/mistakenly think their very specific experience can be extrapolated. Or both!

Sure, those mason jars wrapped in polka-dotted ribbon are a cute idea on Pinterest, but it's a good way to wind up sobbing in the middle of your local Michael's two weeks before the big day. And all that money-saving advice? Yeah, the buffet's going to save you $10 per person, tops.

Maybe you're planning to tie the knot at a 50-person backyard barbecue. Or maybe you're hosting 350 friends, family and business associates to some Gilded Age castle. Whatever. Here are a few pieces of real-talk wedding advice that you can actually use.

1. Maybe pay someone to do that. Are you supremely artistic and experienced in the ways of crafting? Is your great aunt Martha Stewart? Unless the answer to one of these questions is yes, think very carefully about any D.I.Y. projects. Examine your own abilities with a critical eye. For instance, I once tried to complete a "Cosmos manicure" and ended up looking like I'd let a four-year-old paint my nails. Face the music: Despite what Pinterest would have you believe, some of us are just can't cut it at art. And your wedding is probably not the time to learn that lesson. It'll only be more expensive when you have to replace everything at the last minute.

2. Not everyone gets a date, and that's fine. Look, lots of us wanted everyone we've ever known and loved at the ceremony. But that's just not feasible unless your daddy is a robber baron. You'll want to invite as many significant others as possible, of course, and if someone is flying from Shanghai to Cleveland for your reception, you'd better allow them a date. But at some point, it's time to hitch the caboose to the gravy train, and once you do, stick 100 percent to your guns. Consider preparing an email in advance for anyone who truly does not understand that money doesn't grow on trees.

3. You are not the Lone Ranger. Perhaps you want to be the Stanley Kubrick of weddings, strictly controlling every single aspect of the entire production. But that way lies The Shining, my friend. When someone graciously offers to help, come up with some very specific detail they're well-equipped to handle. (If you've got it covered or this person is an absolute incompetent, politely decline, but I urge you to consider the offer, even if it's as simple as logging RSVPs.)

Also, on a more specific note, unless you're wearing that $100 H&M dress, seriously consider having more than one bridesmaid. If I'd known how much work getting my girdle on was going to be, I'd have a bridal party of eight or nine really strapping gals.

4. Write thank-you notes as gifts come in. Do not get behind, unless you want to spend your honeymoon crafting odes to the lovely Waterford from Aunt Mildred.

5. Be ready to show some backbone. I'm willing to bet that most readers of this blog are very, very committed to not being a power-drunk nightmare-person Bridezilla during their planning process—and that's great! Never, ever be nasty. But know that it's perfectly okay to say no, no thanks, not gonna to happen when your florist tries to talk you into expensive hot-pink table overlays. (You'll also need to be prepared to wield that NOPE like a broadsword if you've laid down a law like no kids or no cellphones, by the way.)

And once you put down a deposit on something, don't feel guilty about making sure that vendor gets her job done. If you're paying for a wedding planner, don't let her drop the ball. If your sample floral arrangements are the wrong color, speak up.

Now, a corollary: Pick your battles and save your emotional energy for the big stuff. Maybe you hate your cousin's formal kilt, or your bridesmaid's spray tan, or the best man's habit of wearing lime-green socks with dress shoes. For goodness sake, just let it ride. Save your fury in case the limo never shows.

6. All you need is Google Docs. I've got a binder, a website, several notebooks and pieces of wedding-related paper lying all over my apartment. But the only tool I really needed to get through this without rending my garments and running screaming into the night was Google Docs. Sure, maybe your dad still hasn't gotten the hang of the Internet. But that's what the export to PDF function is for!

7. If you must give favors, give food. Don't give your guests something they're just going to throw away. No one in the history of party planning has ever gone wrong with a light snack. Definitely do not D.I.Y. anything. (See above.)

8. Limit your options.  A lot of things were simply out of budget. But honestly? THANK GOD. There are too many options out there, and limitations are your friend. The name of the game in wedding planning is eliminating as many possibilities as fast as possible. If you're pretty sure you don't want to get married in a barn, put your blinders on and stop looking at barns.

9. Ask (politely!) for discounts. Hey, it can't hurt.

10. Treat thy bridesmaids as thou would like to be treated. I'm not talking no diet commands and no haircut lectures. That's table stakes. I mean don't pick a bridesmaid dress that would look good on you but not them. There are more body types than stars in the sky; maybe give them a choice of five dresses and let each pick her fave. It's not the end of the world if they don't match. Don't ask them to spend a fortune on something they'll never wear again, and give them some sort of thank you at the end.

11. There is no perfect dress. You're probably not a paragon, and you're not marrying one, either. We live in the world of reality, not Platonic ideals. So do yourself a favor and pick a gown that's beautiful and within budget. Don't let the dress shopping drag on until the entire experience curdles.

12. Ask yourself: Who actually cares? Agonizing over whether to have a champagne toast, or pay for chiavari chairs, or (god forbid) shell out for peonies? Here's a question you should seriously ask yourself: Are my guests really going to care? Because this is technically a celebration of you, but REALLY it's an enormous party that you're throwing for your friends and family. This is not your fifth birthday party at McDonalds. You are hosting these people that you love. Every decision should come down to whether the guests like it, appreciate it, or notice it at all.

Remind yourself (as others have reminded me) that people care about the dancing, the food and whether a good time was had by all. They don't care about how much painstaking effort you put into the hand-aged programs and the very firm email you wrote to get the perfect amount of greenery in the centerpieces. You're better off focusing on the broad strokes that best facilitate the party than bothering overmuch with piddly stuff.

13. Have fun. Unless you are Olivia Pope and thrive on details and chaos, it's easy to get overwhelmed. (Yes, even if your plan is simply to order 25 pizzas and surprise all your buds at a bar, you still have to write the ceremony, write up the invites, etc., etc.) But this is fun! It's a happy occasion! Go forth and drink and dance! And remember, as long as you're married at the end of the night, it was a success.

Wedding trends for 2014: Unusual venues, food trucks, colorful cakes

It's wedding planning season, and there are plenty of decisions to be made on vows and rings, gowns and reception venues. Let's see what's trending in nuptials this year.

Pictures Perfect

Popular right now in wedding photography is a vintage feel and aesthetic, says Jody Zorn of Zorn Photography in Denver.

That can mean using vintage cameras — one couple recently requested the Zorns use an old Polaroid, in addition to their state-of-the-art digital cameras — or by adding vintage after-effects or album design elements.

Couples are also asking for more than the traditional, posed shots, Jody Zorn says, adding they want "fashion-forward" and artistic photos, as well as more free-flowing images that "really tell the story of the entire day."

Party Places

The trend in venues is all about the nontraditional.

Think unconventional locations, said Kerri Butler, owner of A Touch of Bliss Events — warehouses, rooftops, vacation rental homes, "the more unique the better."

Art galleries, small restaurants and breweries can also make great venues, said Lauren Smith, owner of Hourglass Productions. Going nontraditional can also reap financial benefits, Smith said — such venues can be more affordable, especially if you book them before they get too popular.

Flower Power

Bridal bouquets are coming up lavender (and purple) this year, according to Chuck Graham, a designer at Bloom in Denver.

Bouquets are also trending away from the "wildflower feel" popular in past years and toward a little more formality and structure, he said.

"It's more of a countryside feel — English garden or French country," Graham said. "Roses are coming back big, especially garden roses and heirloom roses. Jasmine vines, olive branch, herbs — just things you'd find in your grandma's garden, lavender, lilac, things that are almost nostalgic."

On the Menu

It's a big reception question: Buffet or plated dinner?

Many couples are forgoing both, according to Donnah Phipps, an event planner at Three Tomatoes Catering.

One popular alternative is interactive stations, with foods like mac-and-cheese or sliders and choose-your-own toppings, Phipps said.

When Denver Broncos wide receiver Eric Decker and singer Jessie James wed last year, their reception featured a make-your-own-grits station, catered by Epicurean Group.

Another fun, cost-effective option is to hire your favorite food truck, said Nicole Lowery, co-owner of Hey Party Collective.

At smaller receptions, guests can mingle while they order at the truck. At larger gatherings, runners can bring custom menus to the tables, with pick-up at the truck.

Have your Cake

A few years ago, it was almost a sin to put color on a wedding cake, according to Rachael Teufel, owner of Intricate Icings Cake Design. Now, it's all about bold colors, textures and patterns.

Metallics are becoming more popular. So is color-blocking with a bold color like fuchsia, aqua or purple on the bottom tier.

If you don't want a traditional cake, dessert bars are still popular, and the sky's the limit when it comes to options, according to caterers. Ideas include donuts and frozen yogurt with toppings.

With this Ring

Passing diamond rings down through the generations is a wedding tradition that many couples find appealing today, which is sparking interest in what jewelers call "heirloom" designs. "People want something that might have belonged to their grandmother — or look like it might have," said Susi Altman, general manager at Hyde Park Jewelers in the Cherry Creek Shopping Center. Engraving, openwork and other details give contemporary rings a vintage look, she said, adding that rose gold also has the patina of age and continues to be the hot metal.

All that Glitters

When it comes to decor, gold is making a "huge comeback" in reception decor, said Debbie Orwat, owner of Save the Date Events.

Think gold mercury-glass vases and gold chevron table linens, she said. The same goes for glitter, Butler said — it makes a great accent on menus, escort cards and guest books.

Designer Dresses — for less

The average price for a wedding gown nationally might be $1,355 but the reality is that many brides who want a designer dress pay much more than that. Which is why it makes sense to at least look at the offerings that big-name designers Vera Wang and Zac Posen are doing more affordably for retailers like David's Bridal. Posen's new collection of seven gowns is priced from $850 to $1,350 and includes such designs as a fit-and-flare style with a corset bodice, as well as more classic looks in lace and tulle.

Party Posing

Photo booths are still a fun option, but there's a new booth in town gaining traction, according to Orwat. "Slo-mo" booths record super slow-motion video of your guests letting loose with such props as silly string and confetti. Afterwards, you get a 3- to 5-minute montage video set to music.

Pure Cinematography and Cinepro Studios offer the service locally and said the booths run between $1,200 and $2,000 for two to four hours of, ideally, late-night entertainment.

Raise a Glass

Another on-trend option is to hire a creative bartender, Butler said. "Gone is the signature cocktail, replaced by the 'emotional' cocktail,'" she said. "Tell the mixologist your mood, and he will whip up a custom concoction just for you."