10 Wedding Etiquette Mistakes Most Don't Know

1. You're not including the wedding location on your save-the-date card.
Even if you and your fiancé are from the same hometown and still live there now, there's no guarantee that the wedding will take place in that same location. Avoid having 100 people asking you, "Where's the wedding?" by including the city and state on your save-the-date (no need to put the actual venue at this stage). Many of your guests will still have to travel and possibly book overnight accommodations so give them a heads as a courtesy.

2. You're choosing a less convenient date or time.
As weddings have grown more expensive, it’s not surprising that more couples are opting to get married on a Friday or Sunday rather than the high-priced Saturday night. But there’s a reason Saturday is the most popular day for weddings to take place — with Friday weddings, your guests either need to take the day off work, leave work early, or skip your ceremony altogether and just attend the reception. With Sunday weddings, unless it’s a holiday weekend, guests won’t be able to let loose as much as they’d like, and many will leave early to get a good night’s sleep before the work week begins again.

If you choose Friday, start your ceremony later — perhaps 7 or 8 p.m. And if you opt for Sunday, consider an afternoon ceremony with the reception ending by 9 or 10 p.m. (you can have an informal after-party back at the hotel for guests who do want to party all night).

3. You're not making clear-cut lines on who’s invited and who’s not.

There are certain groups you generally can’t break; even if you see some of your aunts and uncles a few times a month and others a few times a decade, you really should include all (or none) out of fairness.

Regarding “plus ones,” the general rule is that couples who are married, engaged, or living together must be invited together, even if you haven’t met your friend’s significant other. After that, it gets a little less clear-cut. Some couples give a plus one to singles over 18. Others decide to include dates for anyone in a relationship, while others draw the line at just couples who have been together for a year or more. Whatever you decide, consistency is key. The exception is your bridal party members — if you can swing it, allow your single bridesmaids and groomsmen to invite dates if they choose to do so.

4. You're putting a false start time on the invitation.

If you’re planning to walk down the aisle at 7 p.m., the time on your invitation should be 7 p.m. Don’t leave your guests waiting just because you want to make sure no one misses your grand entrance. Most guests know better than to show up right at the invite time anyway, so if you put 6:30 for a 7 o'clock ceremony, some of your guests could be waiting around for as long as an hour before you begin.

5. You're using pre-printed labels on the invitation.

Your invitation sets the tone for your wedding — and that starts with the envelope. Now, we’re not saying you need to hire a calligrapher, but it adds such a personal touch to hand write the addresses. Perhaps ask a friend or relative with nice handwriting to help out. Or, try this calligraphy cheat: Using a fancy font in a very light gray, run each envelope through your printer, and then trace over the printed address using a calligraphy pen. Your guests will never know your secret!

6. You're sending an invitation to someone who already told you she can’t attend.

After receiving your save-the-date, your friend tells you that she’ll be out of town and can't make it to your wedding. When it’s time to send your invitations, skip mailing one to this person — sending when you know she can’t attend gives off a “gift-grabbing” vibe.

This rule confuses a lot of brides because you’re also not supposed to invite anyone to the engagement party or bridal shower who won’t be invited to the wedding. However, since you did extend the invite — even though you didn’t send a physical invitation — it’s acceptable in this scenario for your friend to be included in pre-wedding events.

7. You're having a cash bar.

In a perfect world, your guests won't have to open their wallets at your wedding. But you don’t need to shell out for a top-shelf open bar if that’s beyond your budget. It’s perfectly acceptable to offer just beer and wine, and it's a nice touch to add a signature cocktail or two. If you must have a cash bar, see if you can negotiate some drink specials with your venue to lessen the burden on your guests.

8. You're not feeding the band.

Vendors who will be sticking around through your reception — band/DJ, photographer, and videographer — need to be fed. Most even state this in their contracts. Check if your venue offers a “vendor meal,” which typically cost about half as much as a guest’s dinner (the vendor meal usually includes just the main course, which lowers the cost). Or, you can sometimes provide subs, pizza, or another quick meal for your vendors (ask them!). Also, encourage them to grab some food during the cocktail hour.

9. You're not take the time to greet each guest personally.

As receiving lines have gone out of fashion, more and more couples plan to visit each table during the reception instead. What you don't know is that most couples never make it around to every table — you'll get sidetracked when your favorite song comes on or when your cousin drags you off to the bar for celebratory drinks, and before you know it, it's time to cut the cake and say goodbye. Our advice: Have a receiving line, even if it feels outdated and takes away from photo time. Think about it this way: Would you rather spend 15 minutes having a receiving line after the ceremony or spend an hour (or more!) going around to every table? Whatever you do, do not make an announcement that guests who want to see you can come join you on the dance floor — yes, we’ve heard this happen many times.

10. You have expectations for your gifts.

We all secretly hope that we’ll get those carefully-selected items on our registries or that we’ll receive enough money to make a down payment on a house. But, contrary to popular belief, wedding guests aren’t even required to give a gift — and there certainly is no minimum amount that your guests have to spend.

Also: This means that you should not include registry information with your wedding invitation. You can, however, include it with your bridal shower invite, since the primary purpose of the event is to shower the bride with gifts!

6 Items to Save Your Wedding Day Emergency

It's unfortunate, but true: Accidents are bound to happen even on your wedding day — especially when it comes to your pristine, gorgeous white dress. Luckily, most brides say that the little mishaps didn't even make a dent on their big day, but it's always better to be prepared. So, if a tiny drop of red wine somehow lands right onto the front of your dress before you take pictures or if you suffer a wardrobe malfunction, you'll be able to take care of the situation ASAP!

1. Emergency sewing kit with needle, thread, and scissors: "In case you have any tears or rips in your dress — let's say the hem got caught in your heel or your bustle breaks — having thread and a needle can quickly fix the problem. Also make sure to keep a miniature pair of scissors in your kit, which will make any sewing jobs that much easier.

2. Safety Pins: Safety pins are essential in case a detail on a dress falls off and it needs to be secured back on or you have a sudden zipper malfunction.

3. Double-Sided Tape: I've seen one too many brides and bridesmaids who were having too much fun (as they should have been!), and the potential for a 'slip' was very high. Double-sided tape keeps your dresses in intact in places that should never be exposed and gives you confidence to bust out your boldest dance moves.

4. Make Up For Ever Micro Finish Powder: This is one of my favorite products out on the beauty market. Naturally you would use it to blot lightly on your face to combat shine and mattify skin. What a lot of people don't know, however, is that this particular powder also removes oil or grease stains on fabric. It works like magic. Just dust it onto the stain and then blot it out with a tissue or cloth.

5. Tide-to-Go Instant Stain Remover: This is one of the best inventions ever and I always have it on hand. Simply swipe the marker on the stain and it disappears almost instantly.

6. Band-Aid: Last, but not least, don't forget to throw a few Band-Aids into your kit, especially if you're still breaking in new shoes. Stick one on as soon as you feel a pinch to prevent blisters from forming later in the night.

3 Ceremony Timing Essentials

While everyone loves to get the party started, the ceremony is the bread and butter of a wedding. After all, you need a ceremony to actually get married! Once you've figured out where and how you'd like the tie the knot, you'll have to figure out when. From timing your "I dos" with the sunset, to preventing your perpetually late friends and family and even dealing with family members who want to skip the ceremony, our etiquette experts answer all of your ceremony scheduling woes.

Some of my relatives say they are not coming to my 3:30 pm wedding ceremony because they have weekly errands to run. They are planning only to attend the wedding reception, which is at 5 pm. I'm offended! Should I tell them?
We don't blame you for being upset that they would rather hit the dry cleaner than watch you recite your vows, but think carefully before confronting them. Even if you were able to guilt them into attending, would you really feel better knowing they had come only because you forced the issue? Take the high road, and do not mention their absence when you greet them at the reception.

I'm worried about guests arriving late to the ceremony and distracting the others. What can I do to prevent this?
Latecomers to a wedding ceremony are inevitable but there are a few things you can do to minimize the distraction — things that don't involve lying to guests on your invite. Don't be too rigid about beginning the ceremony at the exact minute listed on the invitation; if guests are still trickling in at that moment, give them a few extra minutes to get settled and take their seats. But if it's getting really late, don't feel trapped waiting for people who may never show. (Very late guests may give up trying to get to the ceremony and catch up with you at the reception.) After the ceremony begins, station an usher just outside the ceremony entrance to direct guests in at an appropriate moment. But in the end, don't be too concerned with latecomers. Once the ceremony begins, everyone will be so enthralled with the ceremony that they won't notice any latecomers, especially ones that quietly slink into a seat in the back.

We're having an outdoor wedding and want to get married at sunset. What time should we start the ceremony?
Timing your outdoor ceremony to coincide with the sunset is a wonderful idea -- you and your groom will remember the moment forever and your wedding guests can experience the magic as the light wanes and the candles at the reception begin to glow. But timing the ceremony start time perfectly can be a bit tricky. If you wait until the sun has begun to set to start your walk down the aisle, then the light will be gone by the time you say your vows and you may be left exchanging rings in the dark. Instead, if you're having a 15- to 20-minute ceremony, begin the ceremony one- to one-and-a-half hours before the actual sunset time. (The Weather Channel has a handy wedding-sunset calculator.) Then, the setting sun will cast a soft glow during your vow exchange but it will still be well-lit enough so your photographer can get all the important shots. And as the sun sets and turns to dusk, you'll still have enough light for fabulous post-ceremony group photos, newlywed portraits, and cocktail-hour candids.

The 10 Biggest Wedding Etiquette Don'ts

We're counting down the all-too-common mistakes brides-to-be make, so you can avoid as many of them as possible!

1. Don't announce your engagement on Facebook before calling Grandma.

Remember to share the big news with your inner circle before updating your status on social media. Tell your family and closest friends first, preferably in person, or if they're long-distance, by phone or Skype (so they see the ring!). Only then is it appropriate to change your Facebook status. And after the outpouring of congrats, be sure to post a quick thank-you to the well-wishers.

2. Don't include registry information on your invites.
Your wedding invitation lets guests know how much you love them and want them to be by your side on your wedding day. There should not be any mention of an expectation for a gift, even though, yes, that would be the easiest and most obvious place. It may sound old fashioned, but word of mouth is still the best way to loop everyone in on your registry. Make sure that those closest to you (your parents, his parents, bridesmaids, groomsmen) have your registry details handy because they will likely receive phone calls and emails from guests with questions about what to get you. Another way to easily share registry details to your guest list is via a wedding website — which is totally okay to include on your invites. Be sure to list the URL so guests can head there to get all sorts of additional wedding info — location details, directions, attire suggestions, and, of course, your registry.

3. Don't make guests wait too long between the ceremony and reception.

If your ceremony and reception are at different venues, do your best to minimize the in-between time. When guests have too much free time on their hands between the ceremony and reception, they'll either starve (and get cranky) or find a nearby cafe and stuff themselves. Ideally you want your guests to eat and drink and be merry at your reception, not at a bar they found along the way. If a large time gap is inevitable, make sure your guests are entertained or have the option of being entertained. You may want to plan an outing — a sightseeing bus tour, maybe? — or set up a hospitality lounge, with drinks and snacks, at the hotel where your guests will be staying (you can include information and directions in the ceremony program). Your main goal is to make sure nobody's left in the lurch with nowhere to go and nothing to do.

4. Don't invite someone to the bridal shower if they aren't invited to the wedding.

You can't invite someone to your shower and expect them to give you a gift if you are not planning to invite them to the wedding. It would seem like they were good enough to give you a shower gift, but not good enough to celebrate with you on your big day. The bridal shower is intended to be a celebration with the bride's nearest and dearest, so every shower guest must already be on the wedding guest list. The only exception is a workplace bridal shower, in which a large number of coworkers pitch in and contribute to an office celebration. (If an office shower involves only a few coworkers, thoughtful couples will probably include these colleagues in the wedding guest list.)

5. Don't skimp on wedding-party gifts.

Truthfully, the best gift you can give your wedding party is a pleasant, drama-free experience as they help you prep for the big day. However, it's also important to thank your attendants with a tangible gift to show your appreciation. While every couple's situation (i.e., wedding budget, number of bridesmaids and groomsmen) is different, you'll want to sit down with your fiancé and have a discussion about thank-you presents. One idea is to jointly decide on an appropriate price range per gift, then choose presents accordingly. But if, for example, you decide to give your attendants $80 necklaces while your fiancé gifts his groomsmen with $150 custom Nike sneakers, that's totally fine, as long as you've communicated about this. Whatever you decide to buy, consider what you've been asking financially of your bridesmaids and groomsmen. If they're dropping a ton of cash on wedding-related things like an airplane ticket, hotel room, and $500 bridesmaid dress (not to mention the bridal shower, bridal-shower gift, and wedding present), then a $20 necklace from Etsy might seem a little ungracious. You're certainly not required to buy something that equals how much they've spent, but the amount should convey a sincere gratitude for how much time, effort, and money they have put into your wedding. As a rule of thumb, something between $75 and $150 should suffice.

6. Don't clump all your single friends together at one table.

Sure, weddings are a great place to meet people, but don't throw all your single friends haphazardly at one table. Instead, seat people based on their shared interests, not marital status. Go through your guest list and draw parallels — join up guests with similar hobbies, jobs, or interests. And try to make everyone feel comfortable by offering a mix of familiar and new faces at each table. If your single cousin Kristen just got back from a trip to Copenhagen and your married friends Matt and Valerie are headed there next month, seat them at the same table.

7. Don't make guests pay for their own drinks.

The bar bill amounts to one of the reception's biggest expenses, so it's understandable that not every couple can afford hours and hours of open-bar boozing. But there are many ways to save big without having to resort to a cash bar, which is never a good idea! We repeat, a cash bar is never a good idea! Instead, try one of these ideas:

1. Serve two creative signature cocktails. Give your guests a taste of your personality as a couple by serving a signature drink or two. You'll limit the amount of alcohol imbibed since you can incorporate inexpensive mixers, and you can choose a less expensive brand of alcohol. Not only will this selection help you stick to your budget, but also, your guests will enjoy learning more about you through your drink choices.
2. Stick to wine and beer. Mixed drinks with expensive liquor can quickly add up, so give your guests a choice of wine or beer to sip throughout the night.
3. BYOB. Ask if your site allows you to bring in your own liquor. Buy it by the case to save 10 to 15 percent off the cost of single bottles. Return unopened bottles, if that's allowed in your state.
4. Have a limited open bar. You can opt for an open bar just during cocktail hour, then switch to beer and wine during dinner and the rest of the reception.
5. Go ethnic. Plan a themed reception, then limit beverages to a few appropriate options: red wine with an Italian celebration, or Coronas and margaritas for a Mexican fiesta, for example.

8. Don't forget to feed your wedding vendors.
The last thing you want on your wedding day is a low-energy DJ or an exhausted photographer. Your vendors are putting on your affair so that you don't have to, so plan on feeding any wedding professionals who will be there with you at the reception. This includes your wedding planner, photographer, videographer, and DJ or band, plus their assistants (but not your florist or the ceremony musicians). Work their meals into your budget and consider it part of their fee. (And actually, for many vendors, it is actually stipulated in the contract that the couple is to provide a meal.) As for pricing, ask your caterer — everyone has different policies. Some won't charge extra while others will charge you around 50 percent of the guest meal cost. Others will have you pay full price. Once that's settled, you are responsible for letting your caterer know how many extra meals they need to prepare for your vendors. Also talk to your caterers and the venue manager to designate a quiet spot for them to eat during a break (though you may want to seat your photographer in the main room so they're near the action, in case they need to jump out of their seat to take a shot). Just remember, your vendors are going to be working five to eight hours (or more!) that day and you don't want their energy to flag just as the party gets going.

9. Don't skip out on greeting each guest personally.

These days, most couples forgo the formal post-ceremony receiving line. Instead, make it a point to circulate among the reception tables after dinner. Work with your wedding planner to schedule the table greetings into the day-of timeline and make an effort to find something sincere and personal to say to each guest. Another idea is to hand-deliver your wedding favors as you make your table rounds — it's the perfect way to catch everyone. Just make sure to keep moving and don't get held up at one table for too long.

10. Don't wait a year to send your thank-you notes.
Let's set the record straight: No, you do not have a year to mail your thank-you cards. We're not sure where this wedding myth originated, but you should send thank-you notes to everyone who has given you a gift at any of the wedding festivities (the engagement party, bridal shower, wedding) in a much more timely fashion. For gifts received during the engagement party and shower, send a thank you within two to three weeks of the festivities; for gifts sent before the wedding date, send a card as soon as possible but definitely before the wedding; for gifts given on the wedding day itself, mail a thank-you note within three months; and for gifts received after your wedding, send one within two to three weeks.

What is your favorite "Don't" that we didn't list?

Ask Anything...Wedding Advice for Real People

I love the look of crystal for a black tie wedding, but it's beyond our budget. Is there a good alternative?

Modern colored stemware! It brightens up a formal, neutral palette in an instant, and it's way less expensive to rent.

I'm obsessed with wedding cakes with edible flowers. Any ideas on where I can get them?

What's sweeter than blossoms good enough to eat? You can get them from Edible Flowers or Terrain.

I want to incorporate fabric from my mother's dress in to my own, but her's is lace and mine is silk. Is it doable?

Antique lace can look beautiful layered onto a silk bodice or as an accent around your neckline or waist. For a fee, most salons or designers should be able to make the alteration for you. You could also look at using it on your bouquet, your headpiece, or design a clutch to carry.

Do we have to invite our out-of-town guests to the rehearsal dinner?

A big rehearsal dinner is a nice way to thank people for making the trip, but it is by no means expected. It's totally cool to limit your dinner to the wedding party, and close family. If you'd like, you can treat your other guests to drinks and snacks back at the hotel.

New Wedding Trend of Brides and Their Bridesmaids Showing Their Bare Bums for a Photo: No. Just No.

No, No, No, No, No

I borrowed that string of No‘s, readers, from the subject line of one of the many people who have emailed me to make sure this—this thing—is on my radar, because it very succinctly sums up my reaction to it, too.

Here is the thing we’re talking about. I’ll pause a minute while you soak it in:

 

Here's the thing: When it comes to weddings, you will be hard-pressed to find a person who is more whatever-floats-your-boat, whatever-blows-your-skirt-up than me—I am always preaching to brides not to worry about trends or what's "cool" or what's "in" or what the "rules" are, because I truly believe that especially when it comes to something like a wedding, everyone should do what they want—and I'm not suspending that for this. If you really feel like this fits you and your vibe and your wedding (like, I kinda get that feeling from the fishnet-donning bride and her party above?) and if you really feel certain that in 40 years as your grandchildren page through your well-worn wedding album and come upon this photo that you will beam and say, "Didn't Grandma look good, honey?" then by all means, knock yourself out.

But what I am saying is that I don't like it. I don't even get it. There doesn't seem to be a consistent motivation, judging by the evidence: Is it supposed to be coquettish? Cute? Mischievous? Sexy? Silly? Rebellious? Burlesque-ish? Little-girl-and-the-puppy-on-the-Coopertone-bottle-ish? Cheeky (and yes, I am cringing at the pun)? I honestly don't know.

There is a time and a place for a bare ass, see, even when it comes to weddings—a boudoir shoot! Your wild bachelorette party! Your clothes-optional honeymoon! Even that ridiculous "morning-after" photography, if that is still a thing that people are doing—but your actual wedding is not it. I don't care if you are spending $2,000 or $20,000 or $200,000 on your celebration, your wedding is not the appropriate backdrop for a bare ass, unless of course you and your new mister are overcome with newly-married passion and get at it in the coatroom/limo/bathroom, in which case by all means, God bless.

Just, no.

Originally Posted on PhillyMag by Carrie DennyImages from Imgur

Wedding Planning: The Worst Wedding Advice Ever

Brides told us the most terrible tips they've been given while planning their wedding.

From the moment you get engaged, it seems everyone has some wedding know-how to share. A lot of these tips are helpful; some are borderline disastrous. We asked brides for the worst wedding advice they've heard. Here's what not to do when you plan a wedding.

Bad Advice: "The worst wedding advice anyone has told me was to sing our vows to each other." Erin, Richmond, VA
Our Advice: We totally encourage personalizing your wedding vows, but unless you moonlight as opera singers, leave the American Idol aspirations for the wedding after-party.

Bad Advice: "My mom insisted that I wear my gold-colored junior prom dress as my wedding gown. She thought it was silly to buy yet another dress that I'd only wear once." Alyssa, Madison, WI
Our Advice: While hand-me-down gowns can add a sentimental touch and colored gowns are gaining popularity, most prom dresses should stay securely in the back of the closet for the wedding day.

Bad Advice: "My future father-in-law thought that since we were getting married in an historic home and I'm a costume designer, we should wear hoop skirts and crinolines!" Abbey, Austin, TX
Our Advice: We love historic homes, but unless you're into the idea of a masquerade ball wedding, play up the decor rather than your attire. Likewise, your wedding photos will be around for years to come, so wear something that won't leave your grandkids in hysterics.

Bad Advice: "I was told that if the groom was unavailable during the toast, the bride has to kiss the best man." Anonymous
Our Advice: Making out with the best man at the reception is a great idea -- if your wedding happens to fall on Opposite Day.

Bad Advice: "My mother-in-law said that it was perfectly fine to spend $9 a plate on dinner for our guests. She based this on my sister-in-law's wedding, where they served cold meat sandwiches, au gratin potatoes, and questionable-looking fruit salad." Morgan, Madison WI
Our Advice: Food is one detail every guest remembers. Whatever your budget, you should allot about 40 percent of it for wedding catering. Work with your caterer to prepare a menu within your budget and try to cut costs in other ways (like by trimming your wedding guest list) rather than skimp on the meal.

Bad Advice: "I was recently a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding. I'm also engaged and was amazed when she told me I couldn't wear my engagement ring during her wedding because it was larger than hers…ridiculous!" Scarlet, Longview, TX
Our Advice: Being upstaged by a bridesmaid can be a very real fear for some brides. Handle the situation gently -- explain that you'd rather not take off the ring for personal reasons. If she persists, remove it to avoid more drama.

Bad Advice: "My mother wanted me to ask random pretty girls at church to be in my wedding party so that my brother could meet and then date them." Anonymous
Our Advice: It's true that weddings are a great place to match-make. But your bridesmaids should be your dearest friends and relatives, so pick attendants you know you (not your brother) will want standing by your side at the altar.

Bad Advice: "My mother said that to cut costs, we could send invitations without an RSVP card. Guests could go online instead and RSVP on the web page my dad built for us. I thought it was a good idea, but only two people RSVP'd! I ended up having to call my entire guest list to find out who was coming." Nicki, Oklahoma City, OK
Our Advice: In the age of online-mania, RSVP cards are definitely still relevant, especially for older guests who might not be as accustomed to the Internet. If you do opt for digital responses, enlist your parents and attendants to spread the word and help guests who don't have access to a computer. The online option is an easy way to keep track of guest responses, but have a backup plan (a traditional RSVP card) for those who aren't as tech-savvy.

Bad Advice: "A lady I worked with overheard me telling another coworker how much my fiance and I were planning on saving up for our wedding. She decided to pipe in and say, 'Wow, you might as well just buy a house, you'll get divorced anyway.'" Caroline, Flagstaff, AZ
Our Advice: Avoid snide money-related comments by discussing your wedding budget only with those who need to know, like your parents and fiance.

Bad Advice: "I was told that the bride and groom don't receive the gifts. Instead, the bride's parents get them." Suzie, Norfolk VA
Our Advice: Give each of your parents a small gift as a token of thanks for being so supportive throughout the wedding planning process. The Cuisinart mixer and all the other goodies on your registry? Those are definitely your gifts to keep.

Bad Advice: "My fiance suggested we randomize the seating for all our guests because it would be cool for everyone to meet new people. I can just imagine my crazy friend from grad school and Aunt June at the same table. Yikes!" Vicki, Durham, NC
Our Advice: This idea is only partly off-track. To mix tables with a few people who don't know each other is a good way to bring everyone together at the reception. But don't put anyone at a table with no one else they know, and spare Aunt June the stress by seating like-mannered guests together.

Bad Advice: "'Beggars can't be choosers.' This advice was given to me when I decided to wait on making a decision on a dress and venue. I have a low budget, but being rushed into any decision seems unwise." Erin, Rockford, IL
Our Advice: Sticking to your budget certainly doesn't mean you have to settle. It's always best to check out a few options before you make a decision, and if a certain vendor is just out of your price range, see if you can negotiate for a slightly scaled-down package.

What's the worst advice you've been given?

Wedding Hall Entrance Decor

The wedding reception decor will reveal the bride’s personality and set the mood for the evening.  As you look through  magazines, on-line and meet with various decorators you will see what the hottest and latest trends, colors and style are.  Most likely you already have a picture in your mind of how you want the venue to look.   Many facilities offer a grand entrance way and this may be where the head table party is set up to greet guests as they arrive.  Why not do a little decor in the foyer or entrance then?

I love to see the main entrance or foyer with some accent pieces, linens or flowers before entering the main room.  As the guests walk in it will certainly make a great first impression and a small sneak peak of what is to come in the hall.  You don’t want to over due this though and should keep it simple and elegant.   Perhaps there is a beautiful table in the foyer than just may require a large centerpiece or the entrance doors can be swagged with drapery.   It’s when the guest walks in the hall you want the WOW factor.

Wedding Registry Basics

What other time than the months leading up to your wedding can you walk into a department store and indulge your whims without worrying about what it will do to your bank account? More than just the ultimate shopping trip, setting up a registry is an efficient way to let guests know which items you want to start your life together. A registry also keeps track of who bought what (in case a card goes missing from a gift) and reduces the chance of receiving duplicate presents. Even if you already have all the household items you need, it's still a good idea to register somewhere; guests who would like to buy you a gift often find such guidance helpful.

How Do We Get Started?
Some friends and relatives may want to get you a gift as soon as they hear about your engagement, so it's best to register, at least for a few items, early on. If you're having an engagement party or a shower, try to register at least a month beforehand. Don't feel pressured to make all of your choices at once; you can always go back and fill in or edit your list later.

While it's possible these days to set up a registry and pick out items entirely online, you should visit a store at some point to take a look at everything in person. In addition to everyday items -- towels, sheets, cookware, and the like -- consider special pieces. "A wedding gift should feel important to the giver and the recipient," says Franklin Getchell, president of Moss, a design store in New York City. "Now's the time to go for fine china and crystal stemware." Select items in a range of prices, based on your current tastes. "Registrants should not only think about what they need now, but also what they might need five years from now," says Chrissy Yonaites of Crate and Barrel. Keep an eye on your list as the months go by -- if items are sold out or discontinued, replace them with something else.

At How Many Stores Should We Register?
Stick to two or three stores you love, since managing multiple registries can be tedious when you're planning other wedding details. You'll want to choose a national department store or chain that has lots of household basics, such as Bloomingdale's, Macy's, Bed Bath and Beyond, or Crate and Barrel; such stores also let guests access and shop from your registry online.

In addition, many couples decide to register at a specialty store, such as one that sells vintage linens. If a favorite shop of yours doesn't have an existing registry program, see whether you can have something set up for you. Some store owners will work with you on a case-by-case basis. While their registries may not be as comprehensive as a big store's, they will still provide a service to you and your guests. For example, Maxwell-Silver (www.maxwellsilverny.com), an online gift retailer, offers a registry service that allows couples anywhere to make a wish list of specialty items from various boutiques in New York City. Then even guests who live out of state or abroad can log on to the website and make purchases.

What If We Already Have All the Housewares We Need?
These days, you can register for almost anything you like -- sofas, fine wine, electronics, art -- since home-improvement centers, sporting-goods stores, and other unexpected places have begun to offer such services for engaged couples. While it's still taboo to ask for money directly, financial registries try to make this less awkward; for example, couples can now register for stocks via a website such as GiftsofStock.com, or for their honeymoon through a travel agency or an online service such as TheHoneymoon.com. Saving up for a house? Some banks have programs that let brides and grooms establish a special account to which guests can give money earmarked for a down payment. And couples who would like to raise cash for their favorite charity may register with the IDo Foundation (which sends guests' contributions to whichever organizations the couple chooses) or directly with the charity. If you select one of these alternatives, keep in mind that there will be guests who would prefer to purchase more conventional gifts for you. So it's best to set up a registry with at least one traditional store.

How Do We Let our Guests Know Where We're Registered?
Etiquette dictates that registry information should never be included in a wedding invitation, even though some stores provide printed cards for this purpose. Instead, rely on your family members and wedding party to spread the word. That said, it is generally acceptable for the hostess of a shower to include these details on that invitation (indeed, this is where you might put those information cards to use). And if people ask you directly where you're registered, feel free to tell them.

What Happens to our Registry after the Wedding?
While policies vary from store to store, many shops will keep your registry active for at least one year after your wedding date. This means you'll still be able to manage and edit your wish list online, and people who want to buy a gift for you after the event (it's acceptable to do so up to one year later) will have access to it as well. In addition, many stores will offer couples a discount of about 10 percent if they want to purchase the remaining items on their registry after the wedding -- something you should keep in mind as you try to figure out how to spend any gift cards or cash you receive.

We're Having a Destination Wedding - What's the Best Way to Travel with my Dress?

Destination weddings can be extra stressful if you have to fly with your wedding dress. But if you must board a plane with your dress in tow, then what's the best and safest way to travel with your gown? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your questions in our daily post.

We're having a destination wedding—what's the best way to travel with my gown?

Whether you're marrying in far-flung locale or simply the state next door, getting your wedding dress to your destination safely is a huge concern. For weddings that require air travel, never check your dress (or your groom's attire, for that matter!)—you don't want to risk having your luggage lost. Instead, either pack your gown into a carry-on suitcase or take your dress on board in a sturdy garment bag and kindly ask a flight attendant if it would be possible to hang it in a closet (usually located in first class).

Be sure to arrive at the airport early to allow for extra time during the security screening. TSA personnel may need to open and unpack the dress for inspection (you can politely ask them to handle the dress very carefully and use a new pair of latex gloves for the screening). You'll need the extra time to repack the dress correctly. Adding 30 minutes onto the recommended check-in arrival time for your flight is usually sufficient, although you may need an extra hour at busy airports. Once you've reached your destination, unpack the dress promptly to release the wrinkles. Also, bring a travel steamer with you; do a test run on another garment before you begin steaming your gown to make sure the steam is clean and won't stain the fabric.

I Love My Engagement Ring! Do I Need a Wedding Ring, too?

So, your fiancé chose the perfect engagement ring—congratulations! But if you love it so much, do you also need to get a coordinating wedding ring? Sometimes finding the perfect wedding band match can be tricky. Can you simply wear your engagement ring after you're married, instead, or would that be bucking tradition a bit too much? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your wedding ring questions in our daily post.

I love the engagement ring my fiancé picked out! Do I have to get a wedding ring, too? Or can I just continue to wear my engagement ring after I'm married?
Instead of a separate engagement ring and wedding ring, many couples these days are deciding to get one ring each. Besides saving money, there are multiple benefits of going this route: Single rings are more comfortable and less fussy than a stacked band and engagement ring combo, it's one less ring to have to worry about losing (especially important if you're a bit scatterbrained!), you don't have to worry about two rings perfectly lining up, plus, more of an investment can be made in a single stand-out stone. So deciding to go with one ring is a very smart idea for some couples. All that really matters is that your engagement ring is one you love and will be happy wearing all the time. And if you're enamored of your engagement ring on its own but still want a wedding ring, consider wearing them on separate ring fingers.

Wedding 101 - Asked and Answered

Q: When walking up the church aisle, who goes first, the bride's mother or the groom's parents?

A: The groom's parents proceed the bride's mother during the processional. Here's a rundown: After the ushers have seated all of the guests, the grandparents start up the aisle followed by the groom's parents. The the bride's mother takes her turn. She is the last to be seated before the bridal party procession begins.

Q: Is it necessary to have a receiving line? It seems outdated.

A: A traditional receiving line is not necessary, but you and your groom should take time on your wedding day to greet all of your guests. Visit each table at the reception and thank family and friends for helping you celebrate. They'll appreciate having a little one-on-one and the opportunity to offer you their best wishes.

Q: When is the best time to give our attendants their gifts?

A: Most brides and grooms give their gifts to the wedding party at the rehearsal dinner. Following the main course, dessert is served and the toasts begin. After the toasts, you can acknowledge your attendants and give them their gifts. How you do it, is entirely up to you - keep it light and fun or get sentimental.

Q: I'm confused. What's the difference between between tuxedo, black and formal?

A: Let's start with the word "formal," which dictates a more dressed up look for both men and women: in other words, men in tuxedos and women in long dresses. The "tuxedo" is a single or double-breasted jacket with satin lapels and satin trimmed pockets that's paired with formal trousers. "Black tie" means that the tuxedo, pants, vest or cummerbund are black or dark grey and paired with a white formal shirt.

5 Wedding-Day Beauty Emergencies and How to Solve Them

What do I do if I spill red wine on my wedding dress?

Since red wine is a part of traditional Christian Eucharist wedding ceremonies and the Jewish Kiddush, not to mention a cocktail hour favorite, it's entirely likely that you'll come into contact with a bit of it on your wedding day. If you spill a drop of two, it's essential you act fast so as not to let the stain set in entirely. "Gently dab—don't rub!—the stain with a moistened napkin," urges Angel Swanson of the Southern California-based boutique wedding and event planning firm Love and Splendor. "You can use water or club soda, but the key thing here is the dabbing. After the area dries, you can use a piece of chalk to gently cover any parts of the stain the club soda didn't remove. Have a friend take your gown to an experienced bridal dry cleaner as soon as possible after the wedding.

What do I do if I break the heel on my shoe?

Your walk down the aisle should be dramatic, but not because the heel of your shoe suddenly snaps. "Make sure your shoes are not poorly made," urges Brides fashion director Rachel Leonard. "Practice walking in them a few days before the wedding to scuff up the soles a bit." This will help to prevent any slips or falls. If you do break a heel, all hope is not lost."Bring a hot glue gun," suggests Heather Minicucci, "and then you can glue the heel back together."

What do I do if I ruin my manicure?

You smudged your polish before it had a chance to dry? Not a problem. "Use a Q-Tip or your finger to apply a small amount of nail polish remover to the damaged area," directs Jennifer Orsini. "This will remove any polish globs and smooth away rough edges. Let the nail dry, and then apply clear nail polish to the area." It's a good idea to have a small bottle of your nail polish color stored in a safe area the day of the wedding. Not your purse, per se, since a polish spill could result in a second beauty emergency.

A broken nail is a bit more complicated, but curable nonetheless. "Make sure your emergency kit (or your wedding planner's) contains an emery board," says Angel Swanson. "In a major pinch, you can use a thick fabric (like denim, burlap, etc.) to roughly 'file' the area down."

What do I do if a zipper breaks?

Safety pins, it seems, couldn't be more valuable when it comes to curing wedding-day beauty emergencies big and small. Here's one more reason why you may want to stick more than one in your clutch: zipper malfunctions. "Just before she walked down the aisle," Jessica Harris recalls, "a dainty little grandmother approached me and motioned to the back of her dress where the full length zipper was broken from neck to tailbone! We delayed the beginning of the ceremony so I could use large safety pins to secure her dress from the inside. No one could see the safety pins, and she walked down the aisle without giving the other guests a show."

What do I do if I get a run in my stockings?

"Clear nail polish often helps with this," explains Dana Wood. "But if you're really freaked-out at the size of the snag, ditch the stockings altogether! Just make sure your legs are moisturized—no flaky flakes!"

5 Easy Cost-Cutting Moves for Your Wedding

A beautiful celebration can be yours for less than you think. Here are some smart budget saving strategies.




The Guest List
Keeping your guest list trim is one of the most important things you can do for your wedding budget. If you are worried that you will offend people by not inviting them, stop now. Of course you wouldn't leave out your nearest and dearest, but think of all those people who would be pleased to be invited but not bothered if they aren't. The best thing to do is to make some rules. That is, first cousins but not second. Spouses and live-in or serious partners (usually 6 months is the rule of thumb) but not dates. Your boss but not the whole office. That being said, don't split up groups - if you invite the whole office, fine - but don't just invite one.




 


The Dessert Table
Unless you are having a dessert reception, don't go overboard on sweets. Wedding cakes are so spectacular that offering a dessert buffet, a crepes stations, and mini ice cream sundaes is just excessive.

 

The Flowers
It is no surprise that over the top florals can add up your wedding costs quickly. You don't need to fill every corner of your venue with flowers for a lovely look. Work with your florists to use the freshest, in-season blooms to their advantage, then fill in the rest with budget-friendly candles or greenery. The look will still be beautiful. If you really adore flowers, consider a botanical garden as your venue - a beautiful backdrop is guaranteed.

 

Cocktail Hour
Don't overload guests with everything from sushi bars to hors d'oeuvres to pasta and carving stations. By keeping it short and sweet, you'll ensure you will need less food. Go for hand passed hors d'oeuvres instead of having stations. Only offer enough food to keep your guests from getting tipsy during your cocktail hour.

 

The Drinks
Feel free to skip the champagne toast and use the wine you have on the table. Create a bar that you can afford, whether that means only beer, wine and soft drinks; a signature cocktail and wine with dinner; or less-expensive liquors for mixed drinks. Keep it simple. The more variety the more expensive it will be.

10 Wedding Questions You Didn't Know To Ask

When should I take off my veil after the ceremony?

Everyone loves to talk about the veil, but nobody tells you exactly when to ditch it. While it's perfectly okay to wear the veil for the entire reception, there are two optimal times to take it off. The first is after the ceremony (have your hairstylist show a bridesmaid how to do this without messing up your 'do), and the second is after the first dance while your guests are eating. Once the veil's off, stick it in your bridal suite or have it "decorate" your chair.

How should our wedding party travel to the reception?

We bet you and your groom planned a perfect ceremony exit where you hop into a vintage Rolls-Royce and ride off to the reception. That sounds great, but yes, you're responsible for getting your wedding party there too. If you're going casual and want them to simply drive over, let everyone know this beforehand so they can carpool. Otherwise, rent a stretch limo, go vintage with a trolley or let them be kids again by cruising in a budget-friendly school bus -- of course, feel free to tag along for the ride!

Do I really need someone to hold my dress while I pee?

This depends on the dress. If you're wearing a full-length ball gown, you'll probably need an extra set of hands to help hold up the skirt while you do your thing. Trust us -- the cost versus the benefit on this is a no-brainer. But if you're sporting a silk sheath and a posse pee makes you cringe, go ahead and handle your own business. Another tip: There's a pee-ready Spanx designed with a hole in, well, just the right place. We'll stay classy and resist the oh-so-obvious dirty joke opportunity here.

Is there an appropriate way to kiss at the ceremony?

Remember the day he proposed, and you saw the ring and the tears in his eyes, and then you two started making out like maniacs? Yeah, don't do that. But your first kiss as a married couple doesn't have to be just a peck either. Do what comes naturally, as long as it doesn't involve visible tongue and last more than 10 seconds. Oh, and don't do the dip thing either -- unless of course you want to look like you belong in a Hugh Grant movie.

What exactly do the bride and groom do during the cake cutting?
The cake cutting typically takes place after dinner when your bandleader or DJ makes an announcement (you can also do this). If you have older guests who might be leaving early, do your cake cutting at the beginning of the reception just before the first dance. For the first cut, your groom's hands are placed over yours as you cut into the bottom layer of the cake. The groom makes the second cut solo and feeds the bride, and then it's your turn.

Where do I put my engagement ring during the ceremony?

Wear the ring on your right hand or have your aunt or grandma hold it. If you want to wear your engagement ring for the reception, put it on during the ride to your venue or just before being announced. For Jewish weddings, it's fine to wear your engagement ring, and then exchange stone-free wedding bands if you want to keep with tradition. Also remember: The band is usually worn closest to your heart on your left hand.

Who lifts my veil?

While more and more brides are wearing a veil flipped back for the entire ceremony or not wearing one at all, the most traditional bride still wears a veil over her face. If you like to keep things classic, there are two options. One is your dad lifts the veil when he gives you away, "revealing" you to the groom (like you really need help with that one). The other is for the groom to lift the veil just before the kiss.

What side are we supposed to stand on during the ceremony?

If you're in a church facing the altar, the bride stands on the left side and the groom on the right. Guests of the bride and groom should follow suit, sitting on the side of whoever they know best or are related to (hint: tell mutual friends to sit on the side that has less people). For Jewish ceremonies, it's the opposite.

What's the best way to greet guests if I don't want a receiving line?

Yeah, we get it -- you don't want to stand around after the ceremony in an assembly line. Instead, greet your guests during the reception by going from table to table during the first course. Just make sure you have time to eat too! Also, make a short speech thanking guests for coming and give a shout-out to vendors and parents (or anyone else who helped pay for your wedding!). While this moment with the mic shouldn't take the place of personal interaction with guests, it can be a great forum to let them know how much their support means to you.

Can I take my shoes off at any time during the reception?

We've all been to the wedding where guests cut loose on the dance floor and ditch the heels. But it's a little different when you're the bride -- especially if you're wearing a formal dress. Instead of going barefoot, bring a pair of flats for dancing. If you're getting married in the summer, have baskets of flip-flops in your wedding colors for your guests to slip into before they get down. There's one exception to the shoes-or-lose rule: beach weddings!

Plan a Wedding Without Losing Your Mind

Take some time.
When you first get engaged you are usually beside yourself with excitement - and rightly so! You call your parents, text your friends, post to Facebook, and start dreaming about your perfect dress. But before you start devoting your life to Pinterest boards, there are a few questions that a couple should ask themselves: What kind of people are you and your fiance? Do you love formal affairs, or are you more comfortable at casual gatherings? Who will be on your guest list - mostly old college friends or extended family members? These are the kinds of decisions that come first because they will determine the tone and even the setting of your wedding. Then you can begin to think about how you want your day to look. Flip through lots of magazines - not just bridal ones - and see what speaks to you style-wise. Even thinking about why you love the restaurants you do will help you shape your vision.

Make a budget.
Money is never a fun topic, but you have to know how much you can spend before you start reserving a 15-piece reception band. Once you both decide on your budget your options for your venue, vendors, and style will be much clearer. After that, if you are like most couples, you'll have to choose between having a smaller wedding with every thing you have ever dreamed of, or a larger event that means cutting out some extras like a photo booth or swans in the fountain.

Ponder working with a planner.
If you don't enjoy negotiating with vendors, handling contracts, or troubleshooting problems - a planner can handle all of this for you. If a planner is completely out of the question, maybe an on-site coordinator could help you make sure everything runs according to schedule the day of.

Select your setting.
Picking your venue is the hardest part of the puzzle - everything else will fall in to place once you have your venue like your catering and decor. Since many popular spaces can get booked up to a year in advance, you wil want to decide on your location and date as soon as possible. Choosing a site also means you will know whether you have to order tent rentals, extra bathrooms, and the like, which also affects your overall budget.

Exciting New Wedding Trends for 2014

As 2013 comes to a close, it’s time once again to look into the future and see what new wedding trends are in store for the newlyweds of 2014. Tastes and trends are always changing, whether it’s new technology or designer fashions, and weddings are no different. Every year the arbiters of fashion offer new and exciting designs for wedding gowns and bridesmaid dresses, wedding planners unveil new themes and styles, and caterers explore new ways to wow the wedding party with extravagant cakes and unique culinary experiences. Let’s look at some hot new trends for weddings, and see what 2014 has in store for the happy couple.

Wedding Themes for 2014

Whether overt or subtle, themed weddings are always popular, and that trend is set to continue into the new year. 2014 will see the return of some popular themes as seen on Pinterest, as well as trends that reflect the cultural zeitgeist of the year. The following is just a sample of the popular wedding themes we’ll be seeing in the new year.

Vintage – Everything old is new again, and vintage themed weddings continue to be popular with both brides and grooms. The romantic atmosphere of the wedding day is easily enhanced by incorporating vintage design touches in the bride and grooms attire, and including vintage and distressed items in the reception decor.
Bohemian – Pop culture is currently embracing a return to nature and a new appreciation of simplicity. Bohemian themed weddings reflect the individuality of the wedding couple, and embraces an all natural approach to the wedding attire and the receptions décor. Think long flowing hair for the bride and bridesmaids, and a profusion of wild flowers for the reception.

Pop Art – Color and youthful energy are the prime motivators here. Bright solid colors, and trendy dresses for the bridesmaids offset the traditional white wedding dress of the bride. Receptions are an explosion of color and movement, taking their cue from trendy nightclubs.
  
Tre Elegante – Elegant weddings are always in style, and 2014 will be no different. Traditional wedding attire for the the bride and groom, and an elegant decor for the reception speaks of the style and taste that never goes out of fashion.

Wedding Decor

In 2014 less will be more. Whatever the theme, the trend for the new year in decor will be reserved and understated. Even if you’re planning a pop art themed wedding, you will want to be strategic with your decorations or even make them personal. The idea is to let the colors speak for themselves, and to not overwhelm the guests with an avalanche of decorations. These are some of the decorating trends that will take center stage in 2014.

Rustic – This harkens back to the bohemian themed wedding. Rustic, and often mismatched, fabrics can be used to decorated the event space, providing a natural and relaxed atmosphere. Tablescapes rely on old-timey accents, like mason jars, to bring home the rustic theme.

Vintage – A few antique pieces of furniture always lends a wedding a sense of style. Whether your wedding theme is elegant or casual, vintage furniture and antique accents, adds a sense of permanence and solidity to the proceedings. Vintage accents can be anything from an antique loveseat to a beloved grandmother’s well traveled steamer trunk.
  
Bistro Lighting – Strings of low level lights help to create an intimate and romantic atmosphere, much like a French bistro. This is perfect for smaller wedding receptions. One tip, however, for couples thinking about special lighting features for their reception. Be sure to check with your event space about any restrictions concerning lighting and electrical features. Venues have strict regulations that they must follow, and not every venue will be able to accommodate unique lighting features. That being said, some venues may provide a choice of lighting fixtures for their customers.

Every year brings with it a fresh array of wedding trends. Of course, the important thing to remember is that this is your wedding day, and the theme and decor should match your desires not those of the wedding planner. Let the style of your wedding reflect your taste and interests, and you are guaranteed to be happy with the results.

Celebrate life your way!
~Nique

3 Wedding Hair and Makeup Trends That'll Be Big in 2014

We've talked about a lot of wedding hair and makeup trends this year, ladies—so now that New Year's is nearing, let's predict what looks will be the most popular for brides in 2014.

Here's what I think we'll be seeing a lot of during this coming year.

1. Braids!
We've talked about wedding braids for a while, but I think more brides are actually going to wear them in 2014. A mainstay on the red carpet in recent times, braids are no longer just a cute option for casual days—women are realizing that they can look totally glamorous and dressed-up. I think brides who are looking for something really romantic and a little bit different will be wearing braids in 2014, whether that means one long simple braid or several smaller ones woven into an updo (like the braid crown shown here, which are supposed to be a big trend next spring).





2. Cat-eye makeup

This is another makeup trend that's been going strong for a while now and will finally become popular with brides (who as a group don't tend to embrace beauty trends that are too fleeting). The great thing about cat-eye liner is that while it's so popular right now, it's also a retro look, so it reads as totally classic in your photos and works with almost any wedding gown. Also, we saw lots of cat-eyes on the spring 2014 runways, so you'll be right on target if you go this route.







3. Pretty pink lips

Notice-me berry and baby-pink lips were a big makeup trend on the spring 2014 runways, and I think pink will be the favorite statement lipstick color of brides next year. Not only are they a bit less committal and bold than red, they go perfectly with favorite wedding flowers like peonies—and feel simultaneously fun and romantic (like any good wedding should!).




Those are my 2014 wedding hair and makeup trend predictions—now share yours below! What beauty ideas do you think will be big for brides this coming year?

The Ultimate Guide to the Bridal Party

So how do you go about selecting your bridal party?

First, list everyone in the running, then narrow it down keeping these things in mind.

Pros: Siblings (even those of your fiance')
         You've been BFFs forever
         Being around her, just makes you happy
         You'd trust her opinion in any dressing room
         You were a bridesmaid at her wedding
         She has enviable DIY skills
         She works in the beauty, fashion, or bridal industry
         You could call her to bail you out of jail at 3am

Cons: She was a bridezilla at her own wedding

Next, find something for them to wear.
        You hold in your hands the power to make your friends look like a bouquet of coordinating loveliness - or a herd of headache inducing taffeta. So choose something flattering - A-line silhouettes, ruched bodices, and chiffon gowns are favorites.
        Or set more flexible parameters and let them rock their own styles - just pick the color(s) and your bridal party will be beautiful.

Make sure you can afford them.
     Since you will have expenses for them as well (bouquets, gifts, shoes, etc.) Keep in mind that you may not want 14 bridesmaids.

Know who pays for what.
     - Bridesmaid's attire
        Who pays: Bridesmaid (But if you require them to wear a particular accessory, like shoes, it's your obligation)
    - The Shower
       Who pays: Your MOH and bridesmaids, unless there is a ricj aunt who can hel pout
    - Hair and Makeup for the Wedding
      Who pays: Bridesmiads if it is optional, the Bride if it is not
    - Bachlorette Bash
      Who pays: Entire bridal party. The MOH should see that drinks, food, entertainment, and travel are split evenly.

Micromanage Their Toasts - Just a Smidge
     To prevent reception carnage, ask sweetly that certain topics be off-limits, like exes and sex. Don't ask someone who is terrified of public speaking.
     Here are some guidelines:

1. Do It Alone. You don't need backup. You're a grown-up and the crowd is on your side.
2. Keep It Short. A toast shouldn't take longer that it takes to make actual toast.
3. Be Specific. Don't say, "These two are perfect for each other." Back it up: "They're perfect because they spent their first date exploding Mentos and Diet Cokes on the sidewalk."
4. It's ok to get Emotional. But if you find yourself sobbing into the mic, rein it in.
5. When in doubt, follow this formula: Introduce yourself > funny story about your friend and why you love her > why the spouse is such a great match > larger sentimental thought, and "Cheers!"

Things to consider when choosing invitations

Wedding invitations often provide guests with a first glimpse of a wedding's style. Invitations also may serve as the means by which distant friends and relatives find out about a couple's pending nuptials if a formal announcement was not made.

Amid the flourishes of calligraphy and impressive paper stock is information that speaks to the importance of the day when two people will be joining their lives together. Guests will learn not only the time and the place of the wedding from the invitation, but also the formality of the event and the scope of the party that will follow.

Couples should keep certain things in mind as they begin to design their wedding invitations.

Have a good idea of your potential guest list. Before shopping for wedding invitations, it is key to have a strong idea of just how big the wedding will be and how many guests will be invited. This way you will know how many invitations you will need. Invitations vary in price, so cost may be a consideration if your guest list is extensive.

Decide on the formality of the wedding. Will you be hosting a black tie affair, or will it be a casual gathering at the shore? Guests infer many things about the wedding from the invitations, which should match the formality of the event in style and the sentiments expressed. An ornate invitation written with classic wording suggests a more formal affair, while a whimsical invitation with less formal wording could indicate a more laid-back event.

Dare to be different by playing with invitation sizes and shapes. Rectangular cards are standard for wedding invitations, but you can explore your creativity by choosing more modern, artsy invitations. Circular invites or scalloped edges can add some whimsy to the wedding mood. Invitations that fold out or are embellished with ribbon or other decorations can be appealing. Just keep in mind that cards that are not the standard shape and size could be more costly to send. Always have the entire wedding invitation weighed and priced at the post office so you will know what the postage will cost.

Choose a legible font and text color. Your invitation may look beautiful, but it may prove ineffective if it is difficult to read. Do not risk guests misinterpreting the date or the location because they cannot read the writing on the invitation. Steer clear of pastel or yellow text colors, and remember to have a high contrast between the color of the invitation and the text you are using for easy reading.

Keep the invitation simple. It may be tempting to load the invitation with lots of information, but all you really need are the key pieces of information, such as the "who," "what," "where," and "when." Crowding the card will take away from its aesthetic appeal. Most stationers will suggest a separate, smaller insert in the wedding invitation for the reception information and response card. Never put information such as where you are registered or "no kids allowed." This is material better reserved for word of mouth or on a wedding website.

Do some math. It is important to know your dates so you can receive the invitations on time, mail them out, and give guests enough time to respond. A good rule of thumb is to mail out the invitations at least two months before the wedding. Have an RSVP date of no more than three to four weeks before the wedding, giving ample time to the caterers and accommodating anyone who procrastinates in sending in a response. You will need the final headcount in order to confirm seating arrangements and plan for centerpieces and favors.

Handwrite the envelopes. Your invitation will look more impressive if you address them by hand, rather than printing them off of a computer. If your handwriting is not very neat, consider hiring a professional calligrapher to write out your envelopes.

Make it easy for guests to respond. Be sure to place a stamp on the response card envelope and have that envelope already addressed with your home address so that guests will have no excuses not to mail a response back promptly.

Always order extra. Mistakes happen, and you may need to send out a few extra invitations that you hadn't originally counted. Always order extra invitations just to be on the safe side. And don't forget you will probably want to keep one as a keepsake for yourself.

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